I had moved out, but due to a personal agreement between my parent and myself, I will go back to my original home.
I do realize that my idea that being unhoused would be survivable was quite naive despite me knowing that the life would be difficult (though I was surprised by the fact that police did not generally seem to bother the homeless where I went to), but it was a valuable experience in both seeing the state of them and how it would be unlivable for me.
What was the deal? Basically, I stay at their house and will tell them before I decide to move out, and they will let me stay without having me apply to college or get a job at their place. It is a pretty sweet deal (though I know they will try to slowly erode its legitimacy over time), and this will give me time to build connections for when I move out for real.
For everyone that was worried for me, I am ok (just weirded out by the four weirdos I met on one NIGHT in the state I was in).
Please ask me questions! I would love to talk to you comrades again! :3
I’m happy you will have stable housing for the foreseeable future. From your previous posts, I wouldn’t say you romanticized homeless per se. I agree that your general attitude toward becoming unhoused was naive.
The overwhelming majority of people who are unhoused are not unhoused by choice. Consider yourself fortunate that your material circumstances have allowed for you to return to your home. I’m not trying to put a moral burden on you or obligating you to show gratitude to your parents. Though I am obligating you to use your material circumstances in a productive way to further the struggle of us as workers. Commiserating with a bunch of commies online is great and all. But like a lot of us say all the time, find ways of organizing around you. Join a PSL or DSA chapter, join protests against data centers or flock cameras or whatever the oppressive dejour is. Remember that any type of organizing is better than nothing. Book clubs, soup kitchens, running groups, quilting circles, anything. The important thing is building a foundation of community on top of which further labor and political organizing can be built.
I’m not trying to belittle your circumstances either. You’ve mentioned in the past how working for your parents’ business is a non-starter. Can you explain why that is? Can you envision a way of leveraging this opportunity for your benefit? (Not merely as a resume builder or networking opportunity, but as a means to fund yourself and exercise skills that are useful in other ways, such as organizing)
But like a lot of us say all the time, find ways of organizing around you. Join a PSL or DSA chapter, join protests against data centers or flock cameras or whatever the oppressive dejour is. Remember that any type of organizing is better than nothing. Book clubs, soup kitchens, running groups, quilting circles, anything. The important thing is building a foundation of community on top of which further labor and political organizing can be built.
I’ve found this advice to be greatly helpful. And I hope OP does too.
It was indeed quite helpful, but I will chill for now because I do not currently feel good.
The difficulties of living in suburban nowhere makes organizing difficult.
Personally speaking, I treated participating in organising as a means to a selfish end - that of growing out of some inactivity. Because if inertia kicks in, capitalism is adept at making you feel like you’re without options to interact and that that’s normal.
It might make the odd drive (or bus) out of town that much more meaningful for you if you know there’s a bunch of comrades (and hopefully an organisation) at the other end. Because they can form longer term connections.
Do take care of yourself and whatever I said is just a reflection of my personal experience.
The unfortunate thing is that I cannot drive, so I would have to find someone else to drive me or I would have to relearn how to drive (both seem unlikely at the moment). I will still try to build a social network though.
I will try to take care of myself (and what you said about capitalism alienating individuals is true).
It is hard to help out with organizing if you live in what is essentially a patch of suburban land with a small population (barely anything happens here). I would participate more if I thought that I would be able to. Also, not being able to drive on my own hinders my ability to go to other places to protest.
My parents are emotionally manipulative and immature brats that never grew up past their child stages (in terms of emotional maturity: “I am going to die if you do not come back” is genuinely something a parent of mine said so I would come back), and that toxic behavior is not tolerable even when I mostly stay at home, so working where that toxic influence would be constantly suffocating me would make me even more depressed. Also, they were going to make me go to a specialist school for their nail technician shop so I could become a nail technician as well before I left.
I hope it works out for you. Being unhoused is just too rough, unless you’re in actual danger at home it’s probably better to stay there for now.
Yeah, I realized that after becoming worried that someone could steal my valuable electronics and food once I feel asleep (there is really no safe place to sleep outside). I will still develop a plan to move out, but I have more time to make that a more realistic solution to the problems that come with living in my parents’ house.
Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.
Thank you arctic fox!
glad you made well…for the questions:
why did they accept your conditions? i mean, they were in need of your help too?
how long you were living like that?
what did you learn about your experience?
what kind of ideas had the people around you?
what was the most difficult part of your experience besides the weirdos?
what seemed to be the most pressing issue with the people around you?
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This seems like a bit of an unrealistic answer, but they are just that ridiculous: They were so stressed out by me not being there that they were willing to concede some previous conditions just for me to come back.
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Just less than a day (though it was a bit awful).
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The life of a homeless person is awful, I need a better plan to move out, and next time, I should pack on less stuff when moving out.
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Not sure what this is asking.
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The lack of a comfortable sleeping space and the worry that I would not be able to do much about the situation to move out of homelessness.
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If you mean the homeless people, then I would say that it depended on whoever you asked, but it seems like personal comfort is a surprisingly high issue for them (I see some of them sitting in low chairs just chilling).
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How do you plan to survive when your parents have passed away?
Where did that question come from?
Sense
Well, hopefully by then, I would have developed a more expanded social network and I would have gotten a job that could pay for an apartment; that is for a later part in my life.
My best to you.
