There’s been so many new laws passed across the US (and some other countries world wide as well), that makes it feel like even visiting another area is unsafe. I feel like I can’t go anywhere without feeling like the entire state is out to get me.

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    I live in the only city in the world with an official transgender district, so I’m sitting in a place of extreme privilege. I’ve been pushing on my organization to do better- I’ve increased access to transgender healthcare for our employees and their children. I’ve hired out of state queers to come give talks so I can help financially support where I can. I’m even giving talks about diversity and equity now. I support local queers by going to their establishments and seeking out queer and trans artists to support wherever I can. I offer up my knowledge when I can through a variety of trans communities I participate in. I wish I could do more, but I’m happy doing what I can.

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      What city has a transgender district?? A part of me really loves the idea of that, but I also get worried about segregation. What is it like to live there??

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        San Francisco. It’s not segregated and trans people don’t have to live there, it’s just a recognition and celebration of trans people. They have a bunch of local government officials who do trans stuff like educationals, put on trans artists, work on improving healthcare and other issues for trans people, etc.

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          That’s incredible!! I live in SoCal (the high desert, blegh) and planned on making a trip to San Francisco later this summer. Is there anything specific you would recommend a trans woman visiting your city?

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            There’s a little trans art gallery called liminal space that you might want to check out. Past that just the typical SF stuff - check out Castro, glbt museum, hit up mission Dolores Park, etc.

            What kinda city stuff do you like? Hikes? Beach? Museums? Food? More direction and I can provide recs

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              All of that sounds great! I’ve been once before but I didn’t really get to explore the city or wildlife since I wasn’t there for very long. I prefer not to be in the concrete jungle areas but I know there’s probably some really cool places to see so I’m def open to it

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    I’m in the US, and my family was fortunate to be able to move states. I’m still worried what will happen with the next US presidential election and whether we’ll have to flee the country. There was a news article recently that told the story of a trans child whose family was also moving. I found out they lived in my old neighborhood :( I am angry and scared and sad for these kids.

    Meanwhile, everyone I know who is not queer is very dismissive when I try and talk about this stuff. They either accuse me of exaggerating, or assure me it will never get worse (worse? than what? literally having to move? people being denied healthcare? emergency care?).

    I also have a lot of anxiety being around kids. Because of all the stupid propaganda about queer people being groomers, I feel like someone’s going to accuse me of something, but I’m an anxious person to begin with.

    I’m also afraid to travel to “red states” (something that doesn’t actually exist). It might help you to know that I recently did, and everyone was friendly.

    I think the real tragedy here is that most people are supportive of queer people, but there’s this tiny group of people shouting really loudly and making it seem like the world’s out to get us.

    And for the record, I’m not letting these people prevent me from doing the things I want to do. That’s what they want.

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    Trying NOT to think about it, and failing real hard. The overwhelming sense of dread as things seem to keep getting worse little by little, has me trying to speedrun my transition so as much gets covered by insurance before 2024 comes around, because I’m afraid of what the US will be in 2025 lmao…

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    Every time I hear about rights being taken away I become more bold about my queerness.

    Same with my straight cis partner. He actually begged me to paint a trans flag on his banjo because the main online banjo forum was being anti-trans and he was like “Well I don’t want people in public thinking I’m a bigot just because I play banjo”

    Granted we’re a straight passing Canadian couple so these new anti-trans laws haven’t directly affected us but he’s wholeheartedly an ally and I’ve identified as bi for as long as I can remember so we do what we can to push back against anti lgbt (or generally bigoted) behaviour.

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    The government of Puerto Rico has many problems, but shitty anti-LGBT laws aren’t one of them fortunately. The politicians are too busy using the age-old “statehood, current status, or independence” as a wedge issue to even think about other, more relevant topics. And as a result many LGBT supportive bills have been approved, the Civil Code was even ammended to explicitly protect same gender marriage.

    I don’t fear much for a government problem, but for a personal problem. I’m going to start transitioning as soon as possible because my mental health can’t take it anymore, and while I’m doing that I’ll be saving money, but if my parents find out too soon…needless to say it could end up very badly.

    To answer your question, since I already have too much pressure on me, I decided to avoid as much as possible these news. A part of me feels bad for looking the other way, but reading news after news of yet another state making people like me miserable, it takes a toll on me.

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    I’m actively planning to move to a different province. Our premier has recently started regurgitating rhetoric extremely similar to what we can see down south, and our Conservative party has managed to claw back some rights which had been established for the safety and well-being of trans and non-binary kids had in school.

    Saving up money and having an escape plan gives me a light at the end of the tunnel. I do feel some guilt for not trying to stay here and fight, but I’m not a fighter at heart. Yet it seems like I’ve been doing nothing but fighting. I’m tired.

    (And I’ll be honest, another way I deal is by consuming way too many drugs.)

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        People should prioritize their own safety and health (including mental, especially for a population with a high suicide rate) and that of their loved ones, imo, when it comes to these situations.