• manuallybreathing [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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        I just want to be able to joke about my breeding kink and how I want to breed my man wife, I dont want to have children, i’ve had a vasectomy

        I told the doctor I was doing my part to destroy white supremacy

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          There’s also altruistic surrogacy without a financial incentive for the surrogate, and there’s cis lesbian couples where one woman is the surrogate for the other. In my country, both of these options are illegal and that situation actually requires that queer people interested have the procedure done abroad. Framing the issue as “queer rights checklists include uncritically supporting commercial surrogacy”, in a thread about a post making clear homophobic dog whistles about “gay people having to rely on others to produce babies”, comes off as more than a little bit sus.

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            cuba stays winning, a family can get legally recognized as two gay fathers and two gay mothers

            lowkey i feel like there should be a “dating” service for this so you dont need to go to a sperm bank and can have a bigger safety net for your kids

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            Oh sorry about that. You’re right, in the context of the post this is not really an appropriate place to entertain the topic. But let me be clear that I support altruistic surrogacy and think the redditor should be beaten to death with a stick. Well, figuratively at least.

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      The most fucked up version of this is where the surrogate mother (i.e. the mother) decides to keep her child in the end and the rich Westoids have a cry on the local news about how hard done they are.

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      Even non-exploitative gestational surrogacy weirds me out. Is it queer men trying to seem more “valid” in a heteronormative world that sees the idea of children as more genetic than sociological? If I marry the same sex when I’m older I’m adopting without question, fuck bougie white gays and their fashy bloodline obsession (cough pete)

      Not having a blood connection with your kid does not make you any less their “real” parent. If you feel any different or think sharing their blood will strengthen your bond pls don’t have kids because it’s giving eugenics

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    I mean yes America does have a history of destroying countries and then opening up an adoption market there to profit off of the destruction. If this person was capable of reason, they would be shocked to hear that this has mostly been for the benefit of straight Americans, with some gays sprinkled in only recently. shocked-pikachu

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    the anglosphere doesn’t bother with definitions, words just exist as a vibe. That’s why we keep nicking phrases from other languages, we gotta import encoded meaning from the French.

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    Every single Asian person I’ve known who was adopted by white people have had deep and fucked up self-hate issues so I personally think there is something deeply problematic with international adoptions on a systematic level.

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      from my experience, most asians who grew up in america have those issues too thanks to the overwhelming presence of white supremacy in american society

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      Transracial adoptions can be fucked specifically because of preexisting racial disparities. Imagine having kids at school call you the n word and “cotton picker” all day and when you tell your white parents, their advice is that bullies are looking for attention, so you should ignore them.

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        I had a similar situation (obviously with different racial slurs) and my first generation immigrant parents gave me the same advice. I love my parents and they were doing their best, but some people just aren’t equipped to understand the racial dynamics of a Westoid school.

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    “European” is used as a dogwhistle by euro-fascists in my opinion. Having had experience with the crew running this I think they’re feds or fash.

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    I’ve seen multiple examples of the most active mod in that sub literally doing the “the world is run by a jewish cabal” thing.

    Absolute fucking joke.

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    If a region loots the rest of the world for 4 centuries and then claims it is socialist (the good kind) but they don’t return any of the fruits of said four centuries of looting AND try to maintain an exclusionary wall between ethnic or national in-groups and out-groups, do they lose the “imperialist” label?

    (not to take any of this framing at face value, bleh)

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    weird how they’re adopting orphans that would starve on the streets… or be forced to do hard labor while singing “it’s a hard knock life”
    but they’re imperialists…