Used to think that cis people normally think that they are girls or dislike their genitals, and that it was a phase I would grow out of. I didn’t, it just got worse and it was from browsing r/egg_irl and r/traa that made me realize that I was wrong and in-denial.

I want that so badly, even though I pass well enough now, I would love to be cute like that since I’m not super feminine as I am now. If I got the money I would use it to finally get voice surgery and bottom surgery.

Mine was very slow compared to other people, maybe it was because the DIY estrogen I had is weaker or maybe I could’ve gone with a higher dose. I’ve been on it for about 6 years and by now I for the most part completely pass except for my voice. It did take about twice as long as shown or more for me to show some of the changes. Thankfully for me hair loss isn’t common in my family so I’m lucky I never had to deal with that (my grandfather is in his 80s and still has a full head of hair, it’s completely white but it’s still lush and thick)

Maybe, that’s weird, it’s still up on my instance and they’ve been still able to respond
https://discuss.online/comment/11427017

Probably, most of the ones on Lemmy.world are on the covert side, using dogwhistles and subtle language, to convey their points that most other people, mods included usually miss.

They seem quite proud of it too, this was their response when questioned about it:
https://reddthat.com/comment/13725720

I don’t think any of them compare to lemmy.world. I’ve seen people openly right wing there, and I’ve seen them downvote people for no apparent reason other than being openly trans. I’ve been trying to report these incidents when they happen but I feel like it’s useless since they never do anything, even when the people are homed on their instance.

I actually saw this guy replying to one of my comments in [email protected] hard to believe he isn’t banned sitewide there. They usually ban alt-right fash like him pretty quickly.

Wasn’t even a BBEG, was just a random NPC in the party that party members would make fun of for being “a man pretending to be a woman”. The character remained in the party through the whole campaign and only served the purpose of being the butt of transphobic humor. I don’t even think they had good stats or abilities.

It always felt uncomfortable when they’d do it. I felt unsafe when they would do it. I bet if they saw me now they’d make those same jokes about me directly. Probably also mock me for pronouns. They weren’t good people, I don’t know why I hung out with them as much as I did. I guess I just wanted to feel like I fit in with others. Well I’m glad I never came out to them even when I found out, that would’ve been really bad for me, instead we just quietly went our separate ways.

I don’t think it’s possible, I tried with some people who I thought were close friends but when they found out I was trans they disowned and bullied me.

I’m more of a beer gal myself but I could still go for some right about now. I really need to take the edge off.

I used to have a group I’d play DnD with, it was fun. We don’t talk anymore though because they are right-wing assholes and would never accept me as a trans girl, since they openly made fun of transgender people. There was an NPC character in one of our campaigns which was a “man dressed as a woman” who would always get mocked for it.

Doing okay I guess. Got harassed on Twitter yesterday by some right wing chud claiming that I’ll always have male genitals (really hope he’s wrong and I’ll be able to get surgery in the future 😭 )

When I was young I was always grossed out by my penis, it felt weird and wrong. I didn’t understand it at the time but eventually I realized why. I never had any urges to wear lipstick or makeup though, I actually hate makeup, and don’t really care for wearing dresses or feminine clothes. I thought I was a weird person because of it, and it’s part of the reason I was stuck in denial as long as I was. Thankfully I was able to break the egg, come out, and eventually get on DIY HRT (my doctors refused to prescribe it to me because I wouldn’t “dress as a woman” like they wanted).

Seeing them banned can feel even more cathartic. The trolls on Lemmy.world don’t care if you downvote them, they’ll just downvote you back. Some of them probably have multiple accounts and will just downvote you twice, while upvoting themselves. On blahaj and instances like it, there won’t be games, they just get banned.

Lemmy.world is a shitty instance, filled with transphobes and trolls. Would definitely recommend moving to a different one. I hear lemmy.blahaj.zone is really nice, they ban transphobes and their apologists on sight.

They may be aggressive in their methods but they are one of if not the most trans friendly servers in the fediverse. Mostly because they ban people for bigotry and apologists of transphobes. I mean you are a cis person, saying that a space is unfriendly to transphobes because they are a bit on the aggressive side and ban people for bigotry that is real but you don’t see or understand why it is bigotry. It really isn’t your place to tell us trans people that a space meant for trans people is unfriendly to trans people.

Lemmy.world sucks these days, their moderation is poor, and they seem to allow all kinds of bigots and trolls. Someone told me they believe strongly in freedom of speech, this is what it gets them.

If going with lemmy.zip I recommend staying out of most of their local communities, a mod there who runs a good amount of the local communities on lemmy.zip is a transphobia apologist, maybe it won’t bother some people or won’t be an issue to them but generally I find that hanging out in communities run by people like that doesn’t end well when they eventually use their mod powers to push an agenda.