NOOOO WHY DID I LOG OFF

Okay I’ll consider, thanks for the wisdom comrade

I had no idea this word existed I’m going to DIG this thanks a lot !!

There are no thought crimes.

As a supporter I have to disagree

But seriously I do feel like it’s creepy, it’s only my subjective experience and I don’t necessarily feel guilty about it but I do feel wierd and uncomfortable

You shouldn’t go into the thing actually expecting anything to happen and the amount you are thinking about that might not be completely healthy.

Couldn’t agree more, I’m trying to work on this right now

hell I do this with people I see on the TV that I’ll never meet irl.

Parasocial crushes really are something I can relate

I mean, kinda? Like, having a crush on a classmate is typical school experience, and even if you don’t interact much with them you’re in the same room on a day to day basis. Also having a crush on a friend of a friend you spent some time with is totally normal.

My point is, when you have an actual relationship growing it’s totally alright to start having romantic feelings if the person is attractive to you. But getting sick with love with someone I just met once kind of rubs me the wrong way

Patriarchal society do be romanticising actual obsession though. Lots of love stories are about obsessional creeps getting what they look for and they lived happily ever after

And I don’t think I’m obsessed, it’s still just a crush. I’m paniked by the fact that maybe it’s not good to have a crush after having so few interactions with somebody but maybe that’s just me

Understood

Okay yeah I can’t argue with that, I guess I just needed to hear it because it feels really obvious now

And it sucks how much baggage gets put on you because of the awful, sexist society that we live in. But you don’t have to own it all either.

Very well put. I really don’t want to play the violin like “waaaah it’s hard being forced into the oppressor’s role when you’re a nice little leftist!!!” but I’m happy to see people relate

I might have terminal romantic brain

I’d understand if I was an inexperienced teen but that’s not the case. I had multiple, long, healthy relationships, and I still can’t handle a crush ffs

Okay you’re absolutely right. In fact thanks for reminding me that I’ve had a crush on one of my current best friend, as you can see I had forgotten it happened!

I’m really conflicted about that because I feel like it could ruin a potential friendship if I’m too daring. Also there was a tacit understanding that she would contact me when she gets into a certain shared interest we talked about soooo it would be pretty inappropriate right now, gotta wait for more developments

Feels good to read comrade thanks!

You’re right about friendship. I actually feel better around female friends! And I’m actually afraid I’ll ruin a potentially incredible friendship by being irredeemably inlove

I have dealt with leftism long enough to know that it’s never as simple /s

But seriously yeah I know it’s fine it’s just some kind of anxiety, I don’t know what I’m afraid of, to my knowledge I’ve never been creepy to anyone, yet somehow I’m tormented by the idea of being one

/uj You must be right, I might be overreacting. The subjective experience is very unpleasant but as long as I’m objectively not creeping her I guess it’s alright. Not gonna detail the whole context but evidence suggests that she’s not into me so I’m definitely not making a move. I’ll find a healthy way to cope! (writing a thread on Hexbear is probably one I guess)

/rj I’ll surrender to the Volcel Police to be sent to the maleness termination facility

“When you kill someone they stop talking” wah dude so deep

Pokémon giant plushies are cool but if I see somebody with a Gardevoir one I’ll run for my life