niph [she/her]

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Cake day: 2023年8月4日

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  • It doesn’t need much in terms of cooking, the Chinese approach to vegetables is to let their natural fresh taste come through. I like to simply lightly stir-fry (a little above medium heat) with a bit of salt and garlic by themselves or with shiitakes (fresh or rehydrated) cut into chunky strips. You can finish with a little sesame oil drizzled on top. If they’re small you can use the leafy part and stalky part together, if they’re a bit bigger cut each leaf horizontally into 2-3 sections, and put the stalk parts into the pan first for a minute or two before adding the leaves. Better undercooked than overcooked as a general rule.




  • Trump loves throwing his weight around and hates actually committing to anything. He likes to keep people hanging as that gives him a sense of power. But committing to things means spending money and also potentially looking bad if it goes wrong. I don’t think even he could spin losing a carrier, for example to his most ardent supporters as any kind of win. The fear of looking like a loser drives so much of what he does.

    Having said that, I think it’s gonna depend a lot on how well Israel and the hawks around him manipulate him emotionally. Iran is playing the game well so far but he could still end up feeling like he has no other choice to pull the trigger. That or Iran somehow makes a misstep and pisses him off.




  • If you believe you can’t do something then you definitely can’t.

    Everyone else has covered the specifics very well but on a general level, you need to rebuild your relationship with your reward mechanisms. It sounds like you’re not allowing yourself to feel satisfied at what you have achieved, because you think it’s not enough. You need to start letting yourself feel good about having done exercise, about getting a summer gig, about being someone who tries, about considering college.

    The reason for this is that if your brain doesn’t get rewarded for achieving small things, it doesn’t give you motivation to seek greater rewards, because it starts believing that nothing will bring it satisfaction. I’m talking on a chemical level.

    I was in that trap for most of my life and I’ve recently been working myself out of it. It sounds silly but you just have to keep telling yourself stuff like “I worked out today, good job me”. And most importantly: praise yourself for doing the action, not for achieving a result.

    I believe in you OP.