pooberbee (they/she)

Please don’t touch your server.

I’ve heard good things about transtape

I do this, but I’m trans. I just think we’re cool!

The long-distance thing is hard. I would say however much you’re communicating with your girlfriend now, do it more. Double it, i don’t know. If you care about each other, then you both want to support each other through this. You don’t even have to ONLY talk about being trans, just talking and being attuned to each other will go a long way.

In my experience, my partner has been my greatest ally, and I don’t know if I could’ve done it without her. Even still, when I was questioning and deep in dysphoria, she struggled a lot to see what our relationship would become. We wrestled with the whole thing together: are we still attracted to each other? Are we still happy together? It wasn’t easy, but good communication has really helped, and I think we’re better at that than ever.

Therapy is also huge. You mentioned checking with your girlfriend to see if it’s okay for you to go to a therapist, and honestly, if she said no that would be a huge red flag. Maybe she’s uncomfortable with it for some reason, but in my opinion it’s nonnegotiable.

The leather scarf seems suffocating. Honestly, leather seems entirely wrong for this whole fit.

Congrats! What an incredible relief that must be!

Okay, warmaster

I think we’re pretty close to agreeing. When you differentiate between “need…for mental health reasons” and “need to survive”, it seems like you’re ignoring the issue of suicide and it’s connection to mental health.

If your takeaway from OP was about doing things for fun, then mine was how important fun actually is. Two sides of the same coin, I think, both very valid.

I hope that makes sense. I’m not really here for the competitive talking, I guess.

I guess you’re assuming that singing and dancing are done for no reason. They’re innate, but they also serve social and psychological purposes. Humans need these things to live.

Was it difficult finding a place to do it?

No. My doctor recommended a urologist. A two week wait for consultation and scheduled the surgery for a month later.

How was the recovery?

Very easy and quick. Mild “phantom testicle” pain (actually the cords recovering).

Did/do you have extra skin now or did/do you plan on having it removed? Or did they remove it with the testicles?

They left my scrotum intact, but its default state is much smaller without anything weighing it down.

If in the US, what did the prices for any procedures come to, roughly?

It was covered by insurance. I believe the total bill to insurance was about $30k, and I only paid up to my out-of-pocket maximum. Without insurance, I’ve heard they charge less, but I don’t know what that’d be exactly.

Do you have to take any medication since having it done?

Your questions are all questions I had. It’s a lot of “what if?” The breakthrough for me was that when I started, I had already been living as a man for many years and felt like I had missed out on all that time I could’ve been who I wanted to be. Hypothetically, if I went on hormones, felt like they didn’t help, and never wanted to pursue further transition after several years, then how much masculine life have I really missed? That hypothetical hasn’t happened, and I’m so glad I didn’t wait longer.

Hormones are not the “turn into a girl instantly” button, the effects take time. If you started today, you’d probably still have way more time to mull over your decision than you’d like. You will be fine.

As for a doctor’s concern, that’s complicated, I guess. It’s well established that hormones are generally very safe, and unless you’re going way off a standard dose there’s no real cause for concern. Meanwhile, doctors have been unduly tasked by government with arbitrarily gatekeeping access to hormones, and this is part of why many people do DIY.

I also want to note that I went through the same thought process about “if I can’t be a girl, then maybe I’ll just ‘settle’ for being enby”, and I think it was the wrong attitude to have. There are plenty of binary women that don’t pass and maybe never will. Passing to yourself or anyone has no bearing on your gender. Maybe you are nonbinary and engaging with your gender and the transition process will affirm that, but don’t gatekeep yourself.

What questions do you have?

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=i6cphFUSFxI

Strong disagree, but okay

Reminds me of an actual anime I can’t remember the title of where a kid attends a farming school, and every episode is basically him having an ethical dilemma over the mistreatment and murder of animals and his conclusion every time is that the animals are too delicious NOT to kill, oh well, and he eats a big bowl of pork.

I love her sweater!

We did that too! I think we look better in each other’s clpthes

Suddenly craving a Dunkin Protein Latte

My god his hand. Chessboxing is a brutal sport

Wtf are those pieces