I’ll go first. After your turn the water off in the shower but before you get out, use your hands to wipe off any standing water on your body. Maybe even give your legs a bit of a shake. This way, you won’t drip nearly as much when you get out, keeping the floor and your towel drier.
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Don’t read the news as much I do.
The ability to admit fault and learn from your mistakes is the most important quality that separates a grown person from an actual adult.
Also the opposite side to it don’t keep hammering into somebody once they’ve admitted fault and are trying to rectify their mistakes (within reason).
People will be a lot more likely to be confident in admitting a mistake and being honest about it if it isn’t blown out of proportion.
Totally agree. Some people seem to think it shows moral fortitude to stick to your guns and never admit fault, but these are really the weak-willed people in society.
Another lesson of adulthood it has taken me an embarrassingly long time to learn is that when you are enjoying something and see someone—particularly a younger person—looking interested, bring them in on it. If it’s something you bought for yourself, let them have a go. This may entail a small amount of sacrifice if you let them borrow it for a time, but the joy it brings will make it worth it, and the world needs more of that today. I think about people who have done this for me in the past, and I have mad respect for all of them.
Oh, this is a great one. I agree
This is what puts a stop to most legal disputes as well. These company managers are always worked up about the LIABILITY! Of course attourneys are going to tell you to never admit fault, they want to bill for as many hours as possible. Just sitting down and apologizing goes a long way.
If a child gives you anything, anything at all, blade of grass, shell at the seaside, whatever - take it with real, heartfelt thanks. It is all they have to give.
My older sister gave my dad a dead bird she found when she was little. It ranks among the highest I’ve ever heard anyone shriek.
For the love of God. Get enough sleep. That shit will catch up to you when you’re older.
I’m a runner and I can definitely tell that the largest determining factor for my physical performance isn’t diet, days off, etc; it’s sleep. Sleep is SO important.
Edit: The others are still very important, but sleep is paramount.
After dealing with babies who didn’t want to sleep or sleep for long for a few years, I found nothing that can reverse or help with the effects. Fuuuuuuuck. Get it where you can.
That shit will catch up to you when you’re older.
Especially as one of the risk factors for dementia is sleep deprivation
This would be concerning to me but I’ll forget it in 15 mins.
Sleep debt is real and the interest rate is very high.
I used to not get enough sleep. Now I drive every day. Huge incentive to sleep 8 hours a night.
I’ll compound this with also learning what sleep schedule works best for you. Some people require 10 hours, others 6. Some people do very well with polyphasic sleep, others just need one uninterrupted bout at night.
I usually sleep about 5.5 hours at night and I take a midday 20 minute nap, and I always feel very strong, energetic, lively. If I sleep 7+ hours at night I’m super groggy and have inflammation the next day.
If you see a problem you can fix, it’s best to fix it right away because very often it can become way worse if you leave it for later, costing more time, effort, and money to fix than if you just took care of it immediately. Everytime that little voice says “you can fix that later” you tell it to stfu.
Similar: the five minute rule. If you’re struggling to get started on a big task, do it for five minutes. Best outcome is that you keep doing the task, and it gets done. But even if you’ve had enough, then at least that’s five minutes’ worth you don’t have to do later.
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Smalltalk starter pack:
- (during the day) “So how’s your day going?”
- (in the evening) “So how was your day?”
- (before the weekend) “what you up to on Saturday?”
- (before the week) “what’s your week looking like?”
Easy small repeatable things that open people up. I use it on everyone, and I make sure that I care about the answer because I’m genuinely curuous
Try to eat healthy and perform a minimal workout every day. Eat more fresh fruits or vegetables. It’s quick to make a simple yogurt bowl with fruit and granola, or a salad with lean meat or chick peas. Start with a few push ups, crunches, reverse crunches, and at least a 30 minute walk. Small changes gradually will help you feel better with how you look and feel with a small time investment.
Preach. Get a food scale!
I counted calories for a bit to eat healthier and balance my nutrition.
I stopped after 3 months but I quickly realized that serving sizes ae WAY smaller than you’d think.
A bowl of cereal or chips could be 2 or 3 servings. Donuts and muffins are garbage. Ham and cheese? Triple the ham and cut the cheese in half. Mayo is horrible but plain mustard is 0 cal.
I didn’t eat any less but I made my meals healthier and lost weight without changing my workout.
I also ate bad stuff without cheating. Chicken salad for dinner and a scoop of ice cream for a late night snack under budget.
Take a lunch break, both of those things, lunch and a break. Do anything other than work and sit down to eat something so you can enjoy it. Take a break in the middle of the day, you’re worth it and you deserve it.
One of the hardest things for me. My relax space is home and I can’t make it there on my lunch. My brain doesn’t wanna switch out of work mode because then it could take way too long to switch back.
Can you go for a walk about? When my brain doesn’t want to turn off work, I’ll either watch something in netflix or listen to an interesting podcast while walking.
If anything out of the ordinary lasts more than 24 hours, get to a doctor!
Three days after Thanksgiving, 2018, I developed a really bad case of heartburn. “No big deal,” I thought, “It WAS Thanksgiving and I DID have the extra plate of sweet potatoes…”
Super hard to sleep, couldn’t get positioned right.
Monday, pepto did nothing.
Tuesday, same.
Wednesday, super nauseated, throwing up, called out sick from work.
Thursday, the heartburn moved into my upper arms, which I didn’t know was a thing. Nausea was gone, but it was replaced by the feeling that there was a giant rock in the center of my chest, heavy, pulling down on all my insides.
Advice line sends me to the hospital, hospital runs a blood test and finds I’ve been having a heart attack.
Every time my heart beats, it only pumps out 30% of what it should, that heavy feeling was my heart getting heavier and heavier every heartbeat.
Doc says 30% is the line between walking around, talking to people… and not.
Thursday - Sunday, Cardiac Ward.
Monday - Open heart surgery, ICU.
Tuesday-Thursday - Cardiac Ward. You’d think they’d let a dude rest after cracking you open like a lobster, fuck no! Get up and walk!
Friday - back home.
Yea getting up and about after surgery sucks but it’s the best way to prevent blood clots. Very glad to hear you made it to the hospital in time!
Holy shit that was one intense week! I really feel for you. Glad you got it looked at in time and hope for calm seas ahead.
2019 was one complication after another, almost died a couple of times.
2nd heart attack in January, my heart did stop that time for 8 seconds.
8 seconds is not a lot of time… unless you’re on the back of a bull or your heart stops.
I can back this, though not for a heart attack. I was foolish and never went in, twice.
My body typically runs a degree below what most of us know as the average human body temperature, though this is disputed. Some time ago I got sick. Not like sniffles and some aches, what I got brought my body into fill siege mode for a week. My temps were fluctuating from 102 into mid-104 if I made the mistake of staying covered up for too long, or sometimes just cause. I struggled to eat due to almost no appetite, though I did eat what little I could put down, and slept on-off constantly, mostly dozed. When I was awake it was constant discomfort. Just me being a human torch and downing as much fluids as I could, with a careful mixture of otc drugs. I lost 17lbs that week. Many of you are aware of how dumb I was to not bring myself to a hospital. For those of you who do not understand: My body was in a state of absolute war. Me creeping into 104° was dangerous on a level that’s difficult to grasp, especially if it stays there, god forbid if it goes up another degree. Plainly put: I got lucky. I have no idea what I had caught.
The other situation was a stomach issue caused, I’m convinced, by my body reacting very poorly to pineapple enzymes. Considering I am rather strongly physically adverse to going near pineapple now I’m sort of assuming my body knows what’s up. Anyway, I spent 4 days in and out of the bathroom, often nauseous, with commonly nothing to show for it. No matter what I did my body refused to process something. It’s like those moments where you forget how to breathe, except my stomach forgot how to process. Tums, Peptol, toast, time, heat, cold, showers, light exercise, nothing moved whatever lever some goblin pulled to cause my body to just say no regarding processing through whatever I was dealing with.
Now neither of these situations are heart attacks. Point is, they don’t have to be. Our bodies are remarkably resilient and modern medicine understands this. We have developed advanced medical techniques that, with few exceptions, exist largely to give our bodies time to figure shit out. So just go. Even if it’s no more than a quick consultation and $100 for someone to say “You’re probably not going to die.” cause fuck me if it wouldn’t have helped me in both these situations.
I agree with you wholeheartedly except for that it costs me more than $100
Pineapple! The fruit that eats you back!^tm
https://www.scienceabc.com/eyeopeners/bromelain-in-pineapple-how-it-works.html
If you’re ever randomly angry or sad for reasons that are out of your control and not the fault of anyone around you, make a small announcement. Something as simple as “I’m upset about X, sorry if it seems like I’m being short or snappy with anyone.”
I’ve been upset about X ever since musk took over.
Identifying and vocalizing your feelings is superpower. Good step toward living in a sincere manner. Obviously there are limits (Kant look away), but it makes life much easier when you aren’t worried about being cool and cagey.
I don’t like your comment, and I’m sorry if you take that personally.
You guys just walk out of the shower soaking wet? You don’t dry yourselves in the shower and then step out?
I always do this. My gym has push-button showers, and I always do it there too. However, yesterday, my stupid brain thought “but what if you elbowed the button while towelling off?” Never done that before, but somehow did it almost immediately after I thought that, soaked my towel. Cheers brain.
You know the split brain experiments? Your alter ego decided to test its theory.
I will never understand people who leave puddles or wet bath mats instead of drying themselves in the already wet shower.
I just hang the bath mat up to dry afterwards, problem solved
But why create the problem in the first place? Why not step onto the bath mat with dry feet?
I hang it up to keep it out of the way and to keep feet that haven’t just been washed off of it, so it’s more of an added bonus. Plus, I’d bang the shit out of my elbows trying to dry my hair in my shower stall and if I don’t dry that first, it’s pointless.
Of course not! We’re supposed to feel ourselves up after every shower like a psycho (taking longer and removing less water), step out to get the towel, slip, and ultimately get some time off from work!
Yup. Towel is around the corner from shower door. Now way to get it without stepping out. I feel like I dry quicker outside of the humidity trapped in the shower. And you can buy a bathmat or use diatomaceous earth (recommended) to step on for this purpose. It’s quite common.
I get my towel and hang it over the shower wall beforehand, because ain’t no cold air getting me before I’m mostly dry.
Find a place where you live to have a “sit spot” every day. Ideally outside, but if weather doesn’t cooperate, where you can see outside. You don’t have to do or think anything, just sit (or stand) and enjoy the view. It doesn’t need to be epic, just something you like looking at. (In one of my places, it was the way a particular building interrupted the horizon that I found interesting.) No phone, no computer, no book - just breathe and observe.
It doesn’t need to be for long. Start with two to five minutes. I usually do longer when I can.
Yes, it’s a type of meditation. But a type that works better for this neurospicy gal than sitting in utter stillness or listening to music.
Currently, it’s the picnic table near my bird feeders first thing after waking for my spot. In the morning and evening they are most active, so I sit with a cuppa and enjoy watching them negotiate who eats first while I wake up and caffeinate. It soothes my nervous system in a way notifications and doomscrolling can’t, and makes me better able to handle my day.
This is an excellent one, and one that works great for my level of neuroflavor too.
In my case, in have a big sturdy chair in my back yard next to a pond I built. Having external stimuli to focus on really helps calm the mind and be aware in the moment.
Neuroflavor is a great word, I’m stealing that
Must be satisfying, having the pond you built part of the experience too. I’m just stumbling into the realization that I’m probably going to be in one place for a long time, for the first time, and if my luck continues the WFH will too. In other words I’m realizing I need to widen my scope for how to enjoy my home, to a longer term and to things like that.
Definitely. And even doing the maintenance chores for pond upkeep is a meditative exercise most of the time. Things like cleaning filters. Obviously feeding the fish is an everyday positive. I keep the food container under my big chair out there.
I’m also in a similar situation where I have been in the same place for a long time, and I expect it to stay that way. It’s ideally located and we’ve made it our nice place to be, pond included.
Neurospicy. I like that word!
This is one of the best I’ve seen. Thanks!
If you shower at the gym, you don’t need a whole bath towel to dry yourself. A regular hand towel is sufficient, and it takes up way less room in your gym bag.
Bonus points for those really thin microfiber types. You wring them out as you go to get the majority of water off your body, the rest air dried quite quickly after that.
Wow!!
Hide an extra roll of toilet paper somewhere in the the bathroom, use for emergencies, tell no one. I smash one flat and put it up behind the false drawer covering the vanity sink.
Ah, the turkish cigarette trick!
We called it that back in the day, because turkish cigarettes were the absolute worst smoke you could have. But in need, a friend indeed…
God I miss smoking. I quit near as not 20 years ago after a parent died of lung cancer, and still every once in a while I could f’kin eat one whole. You can “quit” but the craving never really goes away.
Forgot my vape at home while out in town a few months ago. Stress and shit happened. Bummed a dart off the guy working on my truck. And it was like I never quit. It was so good. Words cant describe. Shit was amazing. But it was just the one. I’ve stayed quit. Only because of my family tho. Not like risk of lung cancer really matters anymore. WWIII, climate collapse, etc. Very few of us are gonna live long enough to die of natural causes.
Do people really consider vaping as not smoking?
If you are vaping, then did you really quit?
I quit the tar and arsenic and 100 other odd chemicals in american cigs. I didnt quit nicotine.
As someone who mixed his own vape fluids and slowly lowered the nicotine to ~1.8mg/ml and then went cold turkey first on nicotine and then also on vaping. The craving for a cigarette full of tar is still there once in a while when drinking or when completely stressed out.
Most of the time it’s my brain wanting “5 minutes of fresh air” while working on a problem or thinking back about a good time such as a beer, a smoke and good company during a backyard bbq. I can do those things without the nicotine, and I do.
It’s rare now though, especially compared to how it was when I was still vaping nicotine.I was a pack per day for almost 20 years. Switched to vapes 5+ years ago and stepped down the % and then stopped just like you. Haven’t had a smoke/vape in probably 2 years at this point. I still get a craving now and then but it passes, fuck cigarettes and paying lying tobacco companies to kill me.
I’m just replying to this because I wanted to see what color came after purple in Voyager…
Edit: It’s pink!
As a smoker who quit before ecigs, if you do quit nicotine, it’s hard. But it gets easier every day. Now it’s just a long forgotten memory.
Get mental help, especially if you are a man. It’s ok to cry, and doesn’t make you any less of a person
And I’m going to add something that helps me talk to my therapist: “If it’s mentionable, it’s manageable.”
After you’ve tried to deal with something yourself and haven’t succeeded, telling someone about what’s going on, no matter how unimportant or embarrassing or burdensome or shameful it feels, is the first step to living a life of contentment.
