• Flying Squid@lemmy.world
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      4 days ago

      Don’t buy in to incel myths. There are plenty of men who are not assholes and also married to incredibly beautiful women. Even men who fit the mold of conventional attractiveness. Two notable examples:

      Sometimes being a non-asshole who makes people laugh works quite well.

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      No because they’re the creepy/scary assholes that think they’re nice and that if they do a single nice thing for a woman they get sex and then blow up like an insane person at any woman that doesn’t.

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        Oh I get it. Genuinely nice guys who are shy and have trouble meeting women aren’t a thing, because memes have to be true and non-superficial thinking is boring. Check.

    • flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz
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      3 days ago

      Sure, there are women that go for assholes. Doesn’t have anything to do with looks, it just that a certain % of population is attracted to assholiness.

      Well, it’s their problem

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        3 days ago

        I’m not a psychologist but there’s a theory I give some credence to, that since many men are too intimidated to approach extremely beautiful women, some of those women develop the feeling that there’s something wrong with them, leading them to get into relationships with assholes, and feeling like their choices are limited, allow themselves to be dominated and walked on. In my own dating career there were two extremely gorgeous, sweet, thoughtful women who, after I had patiently listened to them talk about how horrible their exes were decided to go back to them. One of these guys was the big redneck beat-up-guys-in-tavern fights type, the other was an actual former pimp. “He needs me more than you do” was the theme. And no I wasn’t in the friend zone, unless there’s a friend zone that has incredible benefits.