Just about everyone looks better when they smile. It’s true regardless of gender. I don’t see where sexism enters the equation.
I feel pretty oblivious. What am I missing?
Just about everyone looks better when they smile. It’s true regardless of gender. I don’t see where sexism enters the equation.
I feel pretty oblivious. What am I missing?
It’s sexist because you wouldn’t risk asking a man to smile. It’s disrespectful because you don’t get to control another person’s facial expressions. It’s intrusive because you disrupt another person’s thoughts with your selfishness. You aren’t the centre of the world. Other people get to have their own feelings and since women are people that includes them.
This is the best answer I’ve seen so far. Thank you!
This is correct. The rule is, ‘anything you say to a woman must apply equally to a man’, if not, don’t say it. Try saying “hey, nice tits dude” and see how that works out.
It’s a risk telling a man to smile?
Oh yeah.
Honestly, it’s risky with women too, just not as risky.
I know women that will pull a knife on you for giving them an order like that. And I know a shit ton of men that will go straight to punching that kind of fool in the face. Women aren’t as likely to get violent, but when they do, they don’t fuck around because it’s usually men saying that kind of condescending shit.
But, yeah, I’ve seen fights started over even less rude things. Some guys, you don’t give an order to, period, no matter how nice you do it, or how you intend it.
Tbh, I’m not going to respond well to it, though I’ll give a person the chance to GTFO before I step to violence. It’s an option if they don’t fuck off though.
Holy pizza, you live in a place where people just carry knives in public?! I think this might also just be different for different places. Or is it something else that makes this difference?
Well, it’s perfectly legal here, though there’s places you can’t take a knife inside with you.
But, yeah, plenty of people do.
For one, we’re pretty rural and a good knife is a necessity. It’s the most versatile tool on the planet. Then, we’ve got a fairly difficult problem of feral dogs, and not everyone can/will carry a gun for that risk. Not that a knife is a great idea against a dog attack, but it’s better than nothing I guess. And there are people that carry them specifically as a weapon, with the other factors being less important.
There’s this one lady, shes in her seventies now, and carries a buck 119 on her hip everywhere, even church. Has done so since I was a kid at least. She’s one of those tough as hell farm ladies.
Women in particular end up very worried about being victimized just because it’s statistically a huge risk. So they want something to equalize their chances, even a little. I can’t say a knife is the best choice for that, especially without training, but knives scare people, so they think they’re a magic wand you wave around and bad things go away.
When you add in the women and girls that are engaged in activities that up their chances of being victimized, that are also not going to realistically carry pepper spray or a gun, the percentage gets a big bump. There’s a little section just outside of town that’s essentially a meth driven community. There’s nobody there unarmed entirely because meth heads are fucking crazy.
It might be surprising, but some folks carry multiple knives. Typically that’s going to be because they have specific tasks that are better suited to a given type of knife. Best example of that is a guy I know that keeps animals, livestock. He keeps one knife that’s just for cutting twine and other rope/string. A folding hawkbill, or a carpet knife depending on what he grabs first. But he also has a pocket knife for whittling and a general purpose folding knife for general use.
I carry two myself. One bigger one for general tasks, one smaller one with a blade that’s half serrated for specific jobs that are better suited to a serrated edge. Use both of them multiple times a day. And they go everywhere with me that it’s legal to do so. They’re just too damn useful to leave at home.
I carry a ratcheting screwdriver with 12 bits, and a phone. Tools are handy almost every day! It would appear like a knife comes in handy a lot more often than a screwdriver where you are
Oh, heck yeah! Having critters to take care of makes having a knife on you pretty much mandatory. My pocket tools I maybe use once a week, but just with our chickens and doing all the little stuff tending to them, I’ll use a knife at least daily, and that’s just for them.
Eyy chickens are cool! It’s really interesting how different perspectives can be in different places
That’s one of the great things about the internet, running across all those local variations on life :)