I dunno, I thought it would be higher. I guess I’m just a slut surrounded by sluts (positive).
What do you think about the number? Does it surprise you? Does it surprise you that it surprises me? Did you expect it to be lower maybe? If so why?

I just find this interesting. No judgement (unless you want that you dirty little gremlin)

  • joaomarrom [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    I feel weird sometimes about being a good-looking man in his thirties who hasn’t had sex in nearly four years. I don’t really miss it most of the time, but I feel like I’m supposed to be missing it.

    I suppose it’s just that I don’t care enough to put myself through the awful, awful process of socialization of the romantic kind, which has caused me so much pain over the years. I love making friends and chatting, I hate flirting. I frankly don’t understand how people enjoy being attracted to somebody else. Most people actually seem to enjoy flirting and having crushes. A crush is literally one of my top 5 worst feelings in the entire world, and I’m not even joking. It’s a fucking waking nightmare to me.

    In totally unrelated news, my RAADS-R score is well over 140, huh would you look at that

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      It took getting out of a very stressful relationship for me to have a good mentality about sex and dating. It can be tough, it sucks. As long as you feel happy about yourself and what you do though, nothing is the matter. If you are missing something, then something is the matter, but not if you just feel like you should be.

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        Yeah, most of the time I don’t even think about it. It’s just that being uninterested in having sex seems to make it more difficult for me to feel like I belong in most social circles of people my age. It’s either single guys trying to have sex or guys in monogamous relationships trying to have sex vicariously through single men like me.