I’m aware that “occasionally” is a relative term and there does exist some individuals that like to start arguments for clout or drama. If a friend is starting fights with you one or more times a week, they might be shitty, but if it’s a few times a year, they might just be a good friend.

To give an example, I’ve certainly said something borderline bigoted over the years and had a friend mention it to me. Usually it’s done tactfully, and usually I take it well, but sometimes it’s not. Every single time I’m a bit sad and internally defensive. But that shit passes and I grow from the experience. Someone had to tell me because it wasn’t explained to me on school. But imagine the alternative: having the same bad habits and slurs from when we were 12. I’m legitimately grateful for all the comments that have helped me grow today.

I also have this left wing guy friend who has great opinions on economic stuff but still has some bad social views from his upbringing. Randomly he’ll ask me about some bullshit that’s popped up in this life, and often times I need to mediate some drama he’s having. Often I’ll need to walk him out of his patriarchal thinking. Thankfully his wife and I are always on the same side, so it’s easier than it would be if it’s just a random guy. It’s cool to see him grow. And honestly I’m not bragging because I had many of the same views back in the day.

I can’t stress enough, I’m grateful that I’m not mentally the same person I was when I was a teenager. I’m shocked when I meet people from my childhood that are still dropping slurs and bad tropes like it was 1996. I just assume that all their relationships are like in the The Sopranos, because I can barely tolerate being around them.

I do feel that even the most debate bro leftist is still light years ahead of libs and chuds in this matter. I can drop 20 peer reviewed studies and draw a map and normies will not budge their opinion even the tiniest amounts. I don’t feel like anyone here needs this advice.