I’m nonbinary femme. I don’t like masculine or male terms. A few days ago, I was on a group chat with someone and they said “this guy” and used “he/him” pronouns, not knowing my gender. I, however, told them not to address me as a guy and that I preferred neutral terms but was fine with feminine terms as well.
Good, but what was controversial about that?
I may have been rude saying “Don’t address me as a man”
You were not rude. They were rude if they refused to accept your request.
No, this is straightforward.
I am not a transgender but my name has a shorter version. I don’t like it and I ask others not to call me like that when they call me like that. How would they know otherwise?