• blunder [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    23 days ago

    My family is nuclear in that proximity to them is radioactive to me and therefore I see greater value in the “weaker” (i.e. non blood) but more various forms of connection I’ve formed since, with people who don’t talk about murdering people like me. But that’s just my exp

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      23 days ago

      I fully get that. I’m fortunate in that I have good relations with my “blood” family, but I do have extremely close relationships that I consider “family” or closer. I’m just saying I’m not sold on the idea on a general, social level.

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        23 days ago

        Yeah I mean definitely jealous of people who have that in a stable form haha. But decentering that family model and normalizing leaving it when it is not functional and uplifting alternate models is good for others, while those in stable families can continue to be

        obama If you like your family, you can keep them

        Not that I think you disagree I’m just musing