art by Bruce Tachihara

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    6 days ago

    Brought two body suits with a little skirt on both and went in the pool on holiday. First time
    In over a decade I’ve worn swimwear, or been in or near a pool. Part of the iddie bitty titty committee and only use my femme voice for either femme purposes…or when dealing with phone related issues. Only got misgendered once by an employee who wasn’t completely fluent in English, but he corrected himself eventually. Highly recommend. Obvi I’d love to wear a bikini, but the euphoria from just that alone was incredible. It’s scary, but small steps towards it makes it all the easier. Especially when most people will be indifferent or accepting. The right luckily are a small vocal minority. Be careful, but remember most people will pay no mind or easily accept you’re also just a person trying to also enjoy water and weather.

  • katy ✨@piefed.blahaj.zone
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    13 days ago

    cis ppl will never understand the join of being literally physically afraid of the beach or pool for most of your life until transitioning. <3

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        11 days ago

        Same same, it’s killing me not feeling okay enough to bring my little ones swimming. I await the post op stage where I can spend my summers just having fun with my kids without navigating my wardrobe so much to simple feel alright existing.

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      8 days ago

      Not to take awya from the trans struggle, but body image issues are a widely spread issue that we can all connect over and hate society for 💪

      In a perfect society it wouldn’t matter what’s in you pants, what are your measurements, how gender conforming you are, the color of your skin, scars, stretch marks, hair, or any other physical attribute. People would just accept that you are enjoying the environment in the way that you want.

      And as an enby, I hope to see people wear whatever they want, whether it is a cis male wearing a bikini, a trans woman wearing a bodysuit or any person wearing anything they want (or nude, naturism ftw!)

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    14 days ago

    I tried on a 1 piece bathing suit with a little skirt the other day and it was adorable. I know it isnt quite the same as being able to wear a full on bikini but i def. got euphoria from wearing it :3

  • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    13 days ago

    Born to be a slut, sleep with as many people as possible and treat my body count like a high score…
    Cursed with a body that makes that really difficult, if not impossible 😔

    So, I settled down with someone who loves me (and who I love dearly) and I’m sticking to that 🩷

    I still do think about it tho…
    What could have been. How glorious my slut phase would have been, had I been born cis. How many male partners I could have had fun with (at once).
    Oh well… Maybe in my next life.

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        13 days ago

        I feel you 🫂.

        I would’ve been a fucking problem as a cis girl

        Saame. With cis-me, there would have been no men left around for anyone 😂. All mine 😜

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          13 days ago

          But…I really love this one. He’s cute and I don’t mind giving my heart and body to him. The only problem is, I’m gonna suck him dry soon…he won’t survive another year with me 😭

          Despite my sometimes slutty nature, I’m actually quite faithful. Or at least, that’s what I’d like to think 😆

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    14 days ago

    I wish it would only be the gock that gets in the way.

    (ᴗ͈ˬᴗ͈)ꕤ.゚

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    13 days ago

    Okay, this could be a source of dysphoria, but hear me out. Elephant-themed bottoms with a trunk out the front.

    Super cute, no unsightly bulge, maintains other lines, and it can flap around adorably. Win win win win.

    I’ll accept a billion dollars and the First Annual Trans Ally of the Year Award. Thank you, thank you.

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      13 days ago

      Is this really appropriate for this post? If a trans woman makes a post about having severe dysphoria about say, facial hair, and someone comes in and says, “well I’m a trans woman and I LOVE facial hair!” That kind of thing just seems really problematic to me.

      Like what you like. No wrong way to be trans. But there’s a time and a place. When someone clearly feels a discomfort about a part of their body, it feels tone deaf to come into their post and say, “I don’t have that problem, I love (feature X!)” Perfectly valid of you to like what you like, but this doesn’t feel like the right place to do it. Maybe make a gock celebration post if that’s what you want to do. But in a post like this? It feels like rubbing their pain in their face.

      People are allowed to have or not have dysphoria about body parts. We shouldn’t shame trans women who want to keep their factory equipment. But we also shouldn’t be gockposting in places it really isn’t appropriate. Someone should be able to make a post expressing discomfort or dysphoria about their body without having multiple people jump in saying, “well I DON’T have that issue.” That’s fine if you don’t have dysphoria about an issue. No need to come in and point out how you’re not bothered by other people’s troubles.

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      13 days ago

      Is this really appropriate for this post? If a trans woman makes a post about having severe dysphoria about say, facial hair, and someone comes in and says, “well I’m a trans woman and I LOVE facial hair!” That kind of thing just seems really problematic to me.

      Like what you like. No wrong way to be trans. But there’s a time and a place. When someone clearly feels a discomfort about a part of their body, it feels tone deaf to come into their post and say, “Well I DON"T have that problem, I love (feature X!)” Perfectly valid of you to like what you like, but this doesn’t feel like the right place to do it. Maybe make a gock celebration post if that’s what you want to do. But in a post like this? It feels like rubbing their pain in their face.

      People are allowed to have or not have dysphoria about body parts. We shouldn’t shame trans women who want to keep their factory equipment. But we also shouldn’t be gockposting in places it really isn’t appropriate. Someone should be able to make a post expressing discomfort or dysphoria about their body without having multiple people jump in saying, “well I DON’T have that issue.” That’s fine if you don’t have dysphoria about an issue. No need to come in and point out how you’re not bothered by other people’s troubles.

  • Grail@multiverse.soulism.net
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    13 days ago

    Bottom surgery is amazing. I’m super happy with Mine. They tell you not to overestimate the benefits, but I’m so much calmer now!

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      Is this really appropriate for this post? If a trans woman makes a post about having severe dysphoria about say, facial hair, and someone comes in and says, “well I’m a trans woman and I LOVE facial hair!” That kind of thing just seems really problematic to me.

      Like what you like. No wrong way to be trans. But there’s a time and a place. When someone clearly feels a discomfort about a part of their body, it feels tone deaf to come into their post and say, “I don’t have that problem, I love (feature X!)” Perfectly valid of you to like what you like, but this doesn’t feel like the right place to do it. Maybe make a gock celebration post if that’s what you want to do. But in a post like this? It feels like rubbing their pain in their face.

      People are allowed to have or not have dysphoria about body parts. We shouldn’t shame trans women who want to keep their factory equipment. But we also shouldn’t be gockposting in places it really isn’t appropriate. Someone should be able to make a post expressing discomfort or dysphoria about their body without having multiple people jump in saying, “well I DON’T have that issue.” That’s fine if you don’t have dysphoria about an issue. No need to come in and point out how you’re not bothered by other people’s troubles.