For the first time in my life I had to call some cops, to ask them to step and issue a noise violation. It is nearly 11pm, my family had received the most terrible news that day, and I was on hour 60 of being awake. After what has been the absolute most insane emotional, physical and mental rollercoaster of my life, I finally was drifting into sweet slumber the music began. I tried to fall asleep despite it, but it was no use. This neighbor has been loud before and most times I can ignore it, and sleep through, but this insomnia has a grip on me that I have seen in years.

I went down and knocked on his door and was meet with "WHY YOU POUNDING ON MY Door and man aggressive stepping out. I asked him please I have not slept in two days and I cannot sleep with you music on. He said it sound like I had a personal problem and he slammed he door in my face. The music was turned up instead of down, and Hexbear… I cracked. I am a transwoman living alone, I have been on HRT long enough that my muscle density is gone. I have low ciswoman levels of estrogen in my blood. And this man has menaced me before pounding on my door to accuse me of calling the cops on them on a previous time they were loud, when I had not. They said that I had better not EVER call the cops on him

I had to call 911 and ask them to issue a sound violation. I talked to the cops to give a statement, because frankly, this man scares me. He 6 foot something, towers above my 5"9’ seems to always a baclava, when not in his home and is ripped.

And now adrenal is pumping through me and I may be to scared to sleep. I don’t want the hallucinations Hexbear, these insomnia waking nightmares again.

Oh god.

Edit: I got like 4 hours of sleep. It’s not enough, but it’s something.

  • KnilAdlez [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    31·
    9 months ago

    While the cops suck, of course, they are the only tool that is allowed to us to deal with situations like this. Don’t feel bad for calling them when it was the only option you had left. Try to get some sleep, and if you can’t, see if you can stay with a friend for a night or two.

  • CarbonScored [any]@hexbear.netEnglish
    29·
    9 months ago

    We want to replace the police with better institutions, but while those institutions don’t exist, you work with what you got. You are not a bad person for doing what you have to to get a basic biological need.

    Scary situation with no 100% wins for you either way. Take care.

  • sexywheat [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    23·
    9 months ago

    Don’t fret, comrade. A simple noise complaint call to the cops is nothing to worry about. Sounds like your neighbour is a wanker anyway.

    I, too, have had to call the cops on my neighbour (although he was actually violent and a threat to everyone around him) - I mean, you don’t really have anyone else to call, right?

    Not your fault. Relax. and try to get some sleep Care-Comrade

  • ClimateChangeAnxiety [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
    19·
    9 months ago

    My rule for calling the cops is “Will adding an armed, paranoid maniac to this situation improve things?”

    And for a noise complaint when you’ve already tried to handle it yourself, the answer is unfortunately yes. It’d be much better if there was someone else that could be called to fix the situation, but the armed paranoid maniac is the only option available to you. Thats not your fault. You’re just doing your best with the options available.

  • ReadFanon [any, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
    17·
    9 months ago

    Nah. It sucks and acab etc. etc. but there have been times where I have had to call the cops.

    We don’t have community policing which is capable of supplanting the police force nor a police force under the dictatorship of the proletariat and, until we do, unfortunately there are going to be situations that require police intervention. That’s just the nature of the grim reality that we live in today.

    I’d recommend to people to use the non-emergency line in these sorts of situations - most states/countries have them, if you are reading this comment and you aren’t sure if you’ve got one for your region you should take a quick look now to find out - and it’s a good way to avoid putting additional demand on emergency services in situations that do not require an immediate response.

    If your neighbour was a reasonable person then it wouldn’t have needed to get to this point. But that’s outside of your sphere of influence and so you shouldn’t be taking on a degree of responsibility which is not commensurate with your level of control.

  • BynarsAreOk [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    15·
    9 months ago

    Sounds like a chud to me, call the cops and let them fight, I feel sorry for you but definitely not sorry for them, you did the right thing. Cops are pigs but they’re not the only ones out there.

  • allthetimesivedied [they/them, she/her]@hexbear.net
    English
    14·
    9 months ago

    I’m not above calling the cops on someone if they’re an absolute chode.

    Also if you think you’re a bad person for that, I sometimes think about getting back at my ex-friend for basically robbing me of my self-worth by calling the cops and telling them what they do for a living (selling drugs).

  • FreudianCafe@lemmy.mlEnglish
    14·
    9 months ago

    You could get some Pepper spray and/or a very powerful flash light (those with a warning that they will blind u) just in case

    • ReadFanon [any, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
      14·
      9 months ago

      Any sort of high powered flashlight is really good for personal/home defence. You don’t have to shell out big bucks because a decent led flashlight that is powerful enough will dazzle someone when you point it at their eyes (you can get these for about $15 if you shop around.) Sure, they might not physically hurt to stare at but if an attacker can’t see without shielding their eyes and if it takes a couple of seconds before their vision returns then that’s gonna put them at a major disadvantage.