Maybe also got some growth from other communists on fedi seeing us and joining ig

Idk, I’m just not built for dunking ig
o7 to all of you who’ve gone through the effort to write big explanations of stuff for passing liberals to see though

    • Awoo [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      19·
      11 months ago

      Please calm down, I wasn’t telling you to do anything…

      Mate fuck off yeah? You see a single swear word and tell me to calm down like I’ve just committed a sin. I grew up in squats this is how I talk. I am not changing the way I speak in order to appeal to middle-class people from privileged backgrounds. This over-reaction to the way different people speak and the demand that people speak with very specific white kkkracka middle-income mannerisms is just classism.

      Listen to the content of what people say. Not the tone in which they say it. Stop tone policing people. All it does is shut everyone out of conversation that doesn’t come from a very particular white suburban upbringing.

      You yourself admit people are more swayed by flavour and attitudes than anything in debates so having a bad attitude will just at best make you two look bad

      No you see, that’s what I don’t admit. I firmly believe that being harsh with the libs that won’t open up is an effective tool, it makes them uncomfortable, and by making them uncomfortable they eventually change in search of a new comfort zone.

      Liberals entire thing is “uphold the status quo”. This is the position of pretty much every single politically illiterate liberal who really doesn’t understand what any ideology actually is. They change their shape in order to fit themselves into whatever the existing social paradigm is.

      This is why LGBT people got absolutely nowhere with liberals until they literally bullied them with riots and pride parades saying a big visible fuck you to everyone that ever tried to make them invisible. They could not be asked to change they had to be bullied and forced. Once the social paradigm is changed they then accept it.

      This is why anger and cancelling on twitter became a thing. It bullied liberals into new social paradigms.

      This is why it works for dirtbag leftists.

      And this is why they picked up guns and shot at whoever the nazis told them to shoot at. Not because they were true believers. But because mussolini or hitler and every other fascist simply bullies them into a new social paradigm… and once the paradigm is changed they accept it.

      Liberals are absorbomorphs. Their ideology is absorbomorphism.

      Bullying works.

        • Awoo [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
          16·
          11 months ago

          Don’t try to defuse situations by telling people to “calm down” it will 100% of the time escalate the situation.

          What you’re saying makes sense I suppose I’ve just never seen that happen with someone else.

          You’ve seen it happen. Gamers used to tell everyone they were gonna r**e them, liberals all used to be transphobic (ask any trans person what engaging anywhere on reddit used to be like), lgbt people in general used to receive hate from everyone libs included, etc etc. All these changes did not come from convincing people nicely, they came from forcefully creating a new social paradigm and demanding people to accept it. People can either be uncomfortable, or they can change in order to find comfort. This is what people do.

          When it comes to engaging with people regarding ideology such as socialism, this has to be viewed in a hollistic way. There is absolutely 0% chance I can convince the shithead who is gish galloping the usual 30 different propaganda points about the soviet union, stalin, blah blah blah, into engaging with me in good faith. It just can’t be done. Whether they’re being “civil” or not. Making interactions with these people unenjoyable and uncomfortable for them has the potential to make them change the way they interact with the next socialist they come across. It has the potential to make them act differently because they don’t want that uncomfortable experience again. None of our interactions exist in a vacuum, I am not the only socialist you will ever interact with, you will meet hundreds more during the course of our lives, and that future interaction will include decisions you make based on this interaction. A horrible interaction one time gives way to a more positive interaction next time, where that person says “wow I wish someone were as civil about it as you are, last time I got really abusive people” completely ignoring the fact they were being a dick and there was no reason to waste much time/effort on them.

          This is the crux of why bullying works. And also why a broad range of tactics is beneficial to the movement.

            • Awoo [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
              16·
              11 months ago

              But it’s true that major cultural shifts in things are enforced. Honestly I didn’t really notice before you said it to me.

              Successful marginalised people that improve their conditions don’t bargain for it with convincing arguments. They take it.

    • GaveUp [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      14·
      11 months ago

      If your aim is to convince, its useful to be calm and respectful regardless of how rude or disingenuous the other person is

      Honestly I’m not sure this might even be true because of how poisoned our culture is. People enjoy watching assholes trolling other people. People love watching people insulting somebody else if it’s in a humorous manner. Many people have admitted that they stuck around and checked out r/chapotraphouse because they found the community culture hilarious and fun

      The most popular livestreamers are overwhelming douchey and rage on camera all the time

      If we want to reach the younger generation, we have to be witty assholes

      Appeal to emotion works just as well or even better logic many times

      Here’s a study proving that being a funny asshole actually gives you more credibility and trust over somebody who is always logical and correct but speaks in a boring manner

    • GarbageShoot [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
      14·
      11 months ago

      Please calm down, I wasn’t telling you to do anything… I even said that it’s not a pleasant thing to do

      I think you read swearing as yelling when it’s a different register as often as it is a different tone.

        • GarbageShoot [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
          12·
          11 months ago

          Yeah, that’s understandable, I just wanted to mention for the sake of parsing our friend Awoo’s tone.

          As an aside, Awoo was also right that saying “calm down” is usually a bad strategy for deescalation if they are actually mad at you. Anger tends to come from frustration, i.e. a feeling of helplessness. “Calm down” tends to read as being condescending or dismissive and thereby only agitates people more in such cases. It’s my experience that framing it as asking for a favor or suggesting that both of you modulate your tone (not by just saying “let’s calm down”) can work better because it implies a recognition of agency or equality between you or the other person.

          I’m absolutely not good at diplomacy, so take it with a grain of salt, but I felt obligated to suggest an alternative if I’m going to say something is not a good idea.

            • GarbageShoot [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
              12·
              11 months ago

              Just because you can’t tell doesn’t mean that it’s your fault. There are lots of reasons (notably ASD) that can make it hard to tell even if you aren’t a) dealing with text b) from a person you don’t know c) communicating in a different style than you’re used to.

              It’ll be easier to improve if you don’t blame yourself for things you can’t help.

            • silent_water [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
              3·
              11 months ago

              Honestly, I’ve had very little luck to get someone to calm down if they are actually mad at me, but I still try to try.

              the only path there is to work out what they’re mad about and productively, empathetically, and concretely work slowly towards a common ground while genuinely apologizing in specific for offense given. it’s much easier when they’re not mad directly at you, though, as it’s more straightforward to establish empathy.

          • silent_water [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
            3·
            11 months ago

            deescalation is hard in online stuff. IRL, you can establish empathy and shortcut the angry response by asking people how they’re doing, what they need, etc., getting them to think about the present rather than whatever is riling them up. maybe something similar could work in online discussions if couched carefully. it only works if they’re not mad at you, though.