I’ve almost never experienced this and I find it pretty weird that its such a common trope. I legit feel like an incomplete phony person sometimes for lack of experiences like this (among others). The closest I’ve ever gotten is a roommate that used to rile me up on purpose with ridiculous arguments. It was easy to do and I would usually eventually get in on the joke, but some were just annoying.
But like, in terms of super close friends and romantic partners? Not a thing. sometimes I wonder if I’m just masking my “true” self (whatever that even means) so hard that I just never would fight about anything.
But also I just try to be reasonable and give people an out when we disagree and it just doesn’t feel like it needs to elevate to fighting/arguing all the time. I get excited but I’m generally just like, explaining myself and usually the other person doesn’t share my passion for whatever subject lol
Nah, i’m right there with you. In the long term relationships I’ve been in I’ve never been in a reall fight, certainly not a screaming match. I never wanted to hurt my partners or take anything from them, and I never stuck with anyone who wanted to hurt me or take anything from me.
I spend a lot of time around middle-aged-and-up married couples in their homes due to my line of work and the dynamics often seem pretty bleak. Maybe decades make the difference.
There’s a pretty big difference between having an argument with someone because of a difference in opinion or interests, and having hatred for that person. I guess there’s a lot of overlap as people mature and grow old with their close partners it’s inevitable that negative emotions set in alongside love. But it’s definitely different to just arguing, and it’s probably not healthy to hate your partner.
Yeah I think so. Personally I’ve never even felt hatred for anyone in my personal life, it’s a whole different thing as opposed to just having differences with people IMO.
You can argue and disagree without fighting, without trying to hurt the other person or to “win”. But to do that, you’ve got to trust them a whole lot, and they’ve got to trust you just as much.
Isn’t this basically every close relationship? The closer you are the more arguments you have
I’ve almost never experienced this and I find it pretty weird that its such a common trope. I legit feel like an incomplete phony person sometimes for lack of experiences like this (among others). The closest I’ve ever gotten is a roommate that used to rile me up on purpose with ridiculous arguments. It was easy to do and I would usually eventually get in on the joke, but some were just annoying.
But like, in terms of super close friends and romantic partners? Not a thing. sometimes I wonder if I’m just masking my “true” self (whatever that even means) so hard that I just never would fight about anything.
But also I just try to be reasonable and give people an out when we disagree and it just doesn’t feel like it needs to elevate to fighting/arguing all the time. I get excited but I’m generally just like, explaining myself and usually the other person doesn’t share my passion for whatever subject lol
I may just be autistic tho. idk.
Nah, i’m right there with you. In the long term relationships I’ve been in I’ve never been in a reall fight, certainly not a screaming match. I never wanted to hurt my partners or take anything from them, and I never stuck with anyone who wanted to hurt me or take anything from me.
I spend a lot of time around middle-aged-and-up married couples in their homes due to my line of work and the dynamics often seem pretty bleak. Maybe decades make the difference.
I’m autistic and I quarrel with people who are actually close with me because I don’t mask around those I trust unlike with the majority of people lol
yeah thats the part I’m not sure I do.
There’s a pretty big difference between having an argument with someone because of a difference in opinion or interests, and having hatred for that person. I guess there’s a lot of overlap as people mature and grow old with their close partners it’s inevitable that negative emotions set in alongside love. But it’s definitely different to just arguing, and it’s probably not healthy to hate your partner.
I was thinking about good friends you’d much rather have than not but who also annoy and argue. Maybe love-hate is too strong? Idk
Yeah I think so. Personally I’ve never even felt hatred for anyone in my personal life, it’s a whole different thing as opposed to just having differences with people IMO.
You can argue and disagree without fighting, without trying to hurt the other person or to “win”. But to do that, you’ve got to trust them a whole lot, and they’ve got to trust you just as much.