Remember, EM POC only!

This message is to my EM POC comrades: Angel loves all of you.

Especially as of late, I have truly been feeling like this community has worked wonders in keeping me stable when it comes to handling the massive jar of mayo that this site can be sometimes.

soviet-heart

How are you all?

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    yall plz send me good energy… just got a call for a prospective music teaching job i applied to a whileee ago out of state that is more than 3x the pay of my old one!! this could be what i need to get out of this place again and for good this time. they hit me with the “we’ll hit you back in a couple of weeks” at the end and i h8 not knowing exactly when to expect a response (especially cuz i sounded hella awkward on the phone) but i’m using this as an opportunity to continue cultivating my practice of non-attachment. if it is it is, and if it isn’t it isn’t

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    I want to join the Black community group at work but one of the future events is about black folks in the military and it turned me off. Maybe I should join anyway to bring the revolutionary energy that’s needed.

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    Hello my friends soviet-heart

    I’m eastern european who sadly ended up in the ukkk, so I’m posting here to say hello. I’m very aware that I don’t really experience racism like a lot of my comrades here, so I won’t take up too much space mouthing off, unless I’ve got something to share in the replies or need to scream about some xenophobic bullshit, hope that’s cool.

    Sending love to all my em poc comrades kris-love

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      Ummm,I honestly thought we weren’t allowed here lmao

      I’m kinda replying here because I am only surprised to see this

      That’s why I usually avoid this comm,btw if the anti-cracker-aktion rule applies to us too, please remove this comment

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        If I’m getting the sidebar right, then I think it would be different if I was living in my own country, but I’m in england and english people really don’t need much prompting to start acting like chuds. I definitely don’t get shit for my looks (unless it’s about me being trans) like a lot of people in this mega would, which is obv a huge privilege. But the moment I need to introduce myself with my name I can see the xenophobe gears turning in most ppl here >.> Finding a job sucks for the same reason

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          Honestly, I mostly lived in the Global South but I am also now living in the UK. I wouldn’t say I personally experienced the worst of the racism here either.

          I’d say Eastern Europeans are definitely welcome here but I am not a mod.

          Regardless, I hope the job hunt goes well for you stalin heart hands (if I am understanding you right). A family member of mine was struggling aswell but got offered a really good one a couple months back.

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    One thing I didn’t really notice until I read a random blog about translating and subtitling Korean dramas in English and my native language is that our naming conventions are way different than in English.

    This happens with other languages of course but didn’t really realise it for the one I actually speak.

    For example, the infamous example is gender neutral pronouns and no grammatical gender. Maybe even having no last names and only personal names + patronymic names. Some do have family names but depends on familial origin (often arab ancestry).

    But the one I didn’t realise is how referring to yourself by your first name (ie. Referring to yourself in third person in English) is very normal and even encouraged because traditionally people have multiple names and people often only go by one of the names they are given.

    And if not by first name, you either refer to yourself by your title, or your position within the family. Ie. Your dad will say “Dad thinks you should xyz” instead of “I think you should xyz”•

    It sounds absolutely awkward in English but it feels very normal in my native language.

    We also have names for each sibling (ie. Eldest sibling will be called “Along”, you either prefix “kak” or “abang” (“sister” or “brother”) and remove the initial a. In my family we use the gender neutral name. There’s a unique name for up to the 5-8th sibling, in which case it can repeat for more and another alternative prefix is used, but not everyone follows it.

    Nicknames are also a big thing. Family can either call you by a nickname which is usually some form of your personal name, or by the “sibling name”. Sometimes sibling name + nickname for clarification. Other people outside family can use your nickname aswell.

    Typing this all out also made me realise it’s really hard to explain and understand unless you actually speak a language that has that same level of complexity.

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      Ooh, lemme compare!

      For example, the infamous example is gender neutral pronouns and no grammatical gender. Maybe even having no last names and only personal names + patronymic names. Some do have family names but depends on familial origin (often arab ancestry).

      Me too with the gender neutral pronouns, and no grammatical gender (still conjugation tho), though we had surnames even before colonization, and replace Arab influence with Spanish, and the fact our names are more Europenized… (Eg. Juan Del Reyes)

      We also have names for each sibling (ie. Eldest sibling will be called “Along”, you either prefix “kak” or “abang” (“sister” or “brother”) and remove the initial a.

      For me, kuya at ate (eldest brother and eldest sister)

      Nicknames are also a big thing. Family can either call you by a nickname which is usually some form of your personal name, or by the “sibling name”. Sometimes sibling name + nickname for clarification. Other people outside family can use your nickname aswell.

      You know, I have a tita (auntie) Daisy and a tita King, who is an actual aunt.

      Unconsciously, when I was a child, I call one of my siblings Yanang, as an example of such sibling name…

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        Right one thing I forgot to mention is that the “sibling name” applies for your uncles and aunts too but with a different prefix.

        So your dad or mum’s oldest brother would be called “paklong”.

        Those that speak English would use Auntie and Uncle for “strangers” too. In Malay, there will be a distinction on age and gender, “pakcik” and “makcik” for those older/parents age, and just akak and abang for those similar to your age. (I guess similar to the uncle/brother and auntie/sister age distinction in some English dialects).

        This does not even include other major naming cultures present here, especially Chinese.

        I think that’s why over here government documents just ask for your full name without any distinction between family/last/middle names. And it’s also why my full name can get cut off when I am in other countries (it’s too long lol).

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        I recently found out my Tita doesn’t actually have the name “Tita.” This is a person I’ve known my entire life and I don’t know her real name. It’s like I’ve been going around saying “Grandma’s name is Grandma.”

        • I recently found out my Tita doesn’t actually have the name “Tita.”

          i-cant two moods right now, laughter and pity.

          Just to ask, which region of the Pilipinas do you hail from, on yer father’s side? I’ll guess Luzon, and Ilocano at that!

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            Yah Luzon and Manilla. I was talking to my siblings living in the motherland and was all “When you guys visit we should go to Tita’s.” My sister said “Oh, what’s her name? I might have met her before.” Me: “Tita? Her name is Tita…what else would it be?”

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    I passed the ELDT

    which basically means I have satisfied the minimum FMCSA requirement to start the commercial skills test.

    I also backed up a bus three times today and didn’t hit any cones or encroach the boundary lines!

    meow-bounce

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    I “acquired” a ton of E-books on game development from a friends thumbdrive. I hope to crank up my development skills and abilities over the next several months. Not sure what it is but I have noticed my focus and attenion really locked in. In such a way I feel like this time it will be different than my previous attempts at learning this stuff. I wanna game developer and keep it “black black and blackety black yo” in doing so. Even if it’s just a hobby thing I really want to be a game designer, and a black one at that.

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      That sounds great, I’d appreciate any recs if you don’t mind sharing!

      My partner has been nudging me to read “Repairing Play: A Black Phenomenology” by Aaron Trammell for a while, I should really get to it.

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        “Repairing Play: A Black Phenomenology” is actually in the stash I E-books I got as a matter of fact! Most of the books I have are more technical in-scope but some of them are more on the social side of them. Most of them are games as art sort of books as well as techincal “How to XYZ” sort of books.

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    I feel like a lot of online queer spaces are absolutely overrun with white libs who don’t think that they have the capacity to be racist, despite… constantly being very ignorant and offensive. Really, really weird bubbles. Has anyone else experienced this?? 😭

  • Am I the only person who finds it a little weird when white people start calling other white people cracker (half this site)? Like we can’t even be racist to white people without them stealing that too smh