She’s very excitable and barks loudly and rapid-fire and it takes basically nothing to set her off. It’s loud enough to give me a headache through a closed door, and from my perspective the barking fits come more or less at random. Not helping things is that my family thinks it’s hilarious to get her riled up and does it constantly agony-shivering

But if you say you don’t like dogs, people act like there is something wrong with you and assume you must be a bad person lukashenko-tired

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    I love dogs, but hate when dog owners treat dogs as a decoration rather than an active social animal with a wide range of needs.

    If you can’t make sure a dog has a behavioral standard, at least an hour of walking per day, and at least 6 hours of attention per day, you should not have a dog. If you are going to lock your dog up or leave it in the yard all the time or otherwise turn it into a frenzied ball of nerves that you compulsively sidestep or make excuses for, you should not have a dog.

    If you just want an animal to come home to after work, you should have a cat or two.

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    I know a family with the exact same type of dog, completely untrained borderline feral jack russell who barks constantly and snarls at anyone who makes eye contact and even threatened to bite of my fingers…

    And the family just thought it was funny to wind the dog up into barking and growling fits i felt like I’d entered hell.

    Contrary a friend had these chihuahuas which were little gremlins but never really barked more just snort and grunt but i loved them dearly they were very sweet.

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    But if you say you don’t like dogs, people act like there is something wrong with you and assume you must be a bad person

    It’s worse than this. Even if you say you’re neutral about dogs, or something inoffensive like “dogs are fine, but I wouldn’t want one” people think you’re a sociopath.

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        I don’t mind dogs that are well-behaved, definitely a cat person. But I’m not going to completely lose my shit if someone says they don’t like cats. I’ve heard dog people say the most unhinged shit about hurting cats. I especially do not understand people who are okay with violence against other humans, even children, but can’t handle the thought of something bad happening to a dog.

        I get watching animals hurt in fiction can be traumatic to some people for completely valid and understandable reasons. I think there’s something wrong with your morals, however, if you don’t see anything wrong happening to a child, especially toddlers and babies. It comes up a lot in horror film discussions. Dog people will be like “I can handle sexual assault and baby killing, but I draw the line at abandoning a dog or feeding it the wrong food.”

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          I’ve heard dog people say the most unhinged shit about hurting cats.

          Last month, I got roped into remoting in to work to deal with an after-hours trouble call. I was in Skype with a tech from another team within my department, whose system talks to the one that I maintain. Out of the fucking blue he just decides to start talking about murdering cats.

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        Yeah the stereotype is “crazy cat lady” but if you ask any veterinarian, they’ll tell you it’s actually the dog people who are unhinged

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    I really don’t like dogs either. Especially the barking and also the smells. People do think I’m weird for not liking dogs but they’re basically toddlers you have to take care of forever. I don’t get the appeal.

    I like cats though I feel like their energy matches mine

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    I mean, dogs are great. But I’ll happily spot you not liking barking. We had to work hard to train our anxious dog not to lose it too frequently. He’s an absolute sweetheart when he’s calm, but has a very hard time with crowds.

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    This is me but with the 5 children all under 10 that are cramped into a small house.

    I’m not anti natalist but I genuinely cannot understand both how parents do it and also why do many of them somehow like to do it. It’s completely beyond my understanding. Even an hour with this volume and chaos has me completely shutting down

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      You kind of adjust to it or find ways to cope with overstimulation. For whatever it’s worth I find being a parent extremely rewarding and satisfying. It’s still a tremendous challenge that would be even harder without community support.

      5 is too many

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    Not helping things is that my family thinks it’s hilarious to get her riled up and does it constantly

    Shit sucks when people can’t respect an animal and not get them all worked up in a negative way

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    I despise pets; I’m fine with animals, just not in my house. They’re filthy and they destroy my stuff. I live by myself thankfully and don’t have to acquiesce to any demands for pets.