One of the contradictions of the fediverse is the ease of defederation (or, the flippancy of moderators) completely negates one of the main benefits of federation - not needing multiple accounts. Even “good” instances have probably defederated or been defederated by instances you want to interact with. You can always make your own, though.

Regardless, https://toots.matapacos.dog/about is run by a Hexbear user