“We need to sex up your wardrobe. What do you mean you’re not comfortable wearing that? Oh honey, don’t be such a prude, all the girls are doing it and you want to be successful don’t you? No one’s going to watch someone that dresses like their grandma.”

I get sick and tired of so called leftists equating exploitation to sexual liberation.

    • Are_Euclidding_Me [e/em/eir]@hexbear.net
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      posdtive feelings I have when using others as a sexual object for my personal pleasure

      If sex were not about physical objectification, it would not be a physical act. This is not a debate.

      What the fuck. In your mind every single sexual encounter is all participants using each other as objects for personal pleasure? That has not been my experience, and my guess is it isn’t the experience of most people who have sex. Sex should be mutually pleasurable and is something you do collaboratively with other people. It’s not getting your own pleasure regardless of how your partner(s) feel, it’s everyone involved working together to try and make the experience good for everyone.

      Do you think every physical act is about objectification? When I, say, play tennis with someone, are we objectifying each other then too? What about when I cuddle with my partner? When we both go in for a hug because we want to experience that physical closeness? Is that objectification? Am I “using him” every time I hug my partner?

      Also, I don’t hate your position on sex, I’m being sincere when I say you don’t have to like it or engage with it, ever, for any reason. That’s fine, there’s really no issue there. All I’m saying is that some people (me included) like sex, and it’s a little odd to be told I’m using my partner as an object every time we get intimate. That’s really weird, and not at all what’s happening.