Like, seriously, I have had a few people talk about how my fiancé wasn’t conventionally attractive, but he’s attractive to me :)

Plus, he’s good to me, and I don’t date for looks. I’ve had conventionally attractive exes too who have been horrible people, so…

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    Generally a good thing to be attracted to the person you’re fucking

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        Many people are themselves not particularly attractive, so this is may be a matter of realistic expectations.

        It’s only interesting when there’s a large disparity in attractiveness which is generally anomalous. I think “many” falling into this category is probably an overstatement.

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      Better to be attracted by the person you love. In most cases men will fuck anything given the opportunity and they sure as hell don’t care about aesthetics when in that situation.

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        Nope, just not true.

        Sexuality is heavily tied to aesthetic attraction, in most men too.

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        Respectfully going to disagree with you. I’m sure there exist both men and also women who will do this, but by no means is this the norm. I would argue the lion’s share of people need to at least be attracted to the other person in some way before pursuing any level of physical intimacy.