Yes im aware some folks would consider that a first world problem but it kills all of my sparetime. Like I just spent over 19h in bed yesterday. It completely fucks up my sleep rythm as you can imagine. I just enjoy dreaming to much and the peaceful oblivion that sleep brings.

How do I sleep less ? I had a sleep rythm before that wasnt optimal but I could work with it. If I set an alarm I usually get up before it rings and turn it of. I already set 2 alarms.

If you wonder how that works with work- I basically do freelance work and as long as I finish my work within the deadlines all is good. So I dont have set work times like a normal human bean… Which doesnt help. The last couple of years I have been basically a nocturnal creature.

I have like 0 willpower when it comes to sleep

Sorry for being a girlfailure doggirl-tears

I guess my sleep problems are the imho most embarassing thing about me. So now I have shared my very soul essence with Hexbear.

    • hellinkilla [they/them, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      2 months ago

      so clarification, you slept for 19 hours, does that mean you were awake for 5/24 hours prior, as others are assuming? if you are literally sleeping 19h/day x 7days each week, that’s different.

        • hellinkilla [they/them, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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          2 months ago

          I have slept for >24 hours after being awake for 2-3 days. To whatever extent that is a problem, the awake is equal problem as sleep. So you should do the chart thing I said to at least have a grasp on the situation. If you are 20h/20h then you are sleeping avg 12h/day which is way less severely abnormal than 19h/day. “8 hours” is a kind of general guideline — middle of the bell curve. There are people at the tails of the bell. 4 and 12 hours. But it isn’t just that you need more sleep, it’s that you also need/take more awake. Most people do not stay up for 20 hours by choice! So all these things people are saying about fatigue are not it; if you were fatigued this would not be possible. Obviously if you stay awake for a long time, you will sleep long to compensate.

          The issue is the whole cycle not sleep. Work, drugs/meds/substances, physical activity, socializing, screens, food, sex, noise, light, temperature, habits, extrinsic demands + innate temperament are all potentiially contributing.

          • 9to5 [any, comrade/them]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
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            2 months ago

            So I dont think I have ever been awake for 2 days ? like I do try not to surpass 30h Today is probably going to be a 30h day but I will try to fit a 2h nap in there somewhere

            • hellinkilla [they/them, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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              2 months ago

              Right, so if you can plan to stay awake for 30h than you are not plausibly having a fatigue issue. It would be impossible with some of the health issues proposed in this thread. Quite abnormal even without those. But naturally you will sleep a lot after. if sleep wake is averagely 16h:8h (2:1), that gives 30h:15h approximately. So I am not finding it strange to sleep 19h if you are keeping hours like this.

              It is an issue with circadian rhythm. Things that could help if you have the discipline for them are

              • exercising or doing physical labor heavily during the day (this is really helpful IME)
              • refraining from screens after certain hours; or refraining from specific known stimulating activities like games socials chats sexstuff tv news whatever
              • eliminating or strictly scheduling stimulant chemicals (only drinking 1 coffee before noon etc); don’t forget to consider nicotine
                • if prescribed stimulants take exactly as ordered
                • consider adjusting if dose to be shorter acting or to have longer acting in the evenings (some people need stimulants in the PM to help them sleep!)
              • sleep hygiene
              • set a bed time on a 24 hour schedule and go to bed at that time every single day; establish bed time routine (treat yourself like a child)
              • CBT for bedtime / wake up habits (I haven’t tried this one but I am considering)

              But I am guessing if you plan for a 30h waketime, there is some reason for that too? Work demands? Plans stacked up to not allow sleep? So you must decide if this is your lifestyle that you are doing, or if those underlying reasons can/should be modified. Because you cannot expect to have such long wakefulness without long sleeping. About 1/3 time is normally spent sleeping. Some people more and some people less.