Have any queer vibes to share? Here’s your place! hexbear-pride

Talk about what’s happening queerly in your life - like coming out, getting HRT, questioning, and all that good stuff.

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  • ilyenkov [she/her, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I have a girlfriend! And also I’m her girlfriend! And idk if this makes sense to anyone else, but I’ve decided that I’m agender but also have girl vibes. I don’t have a gender, I’m not a woman. But, in spirit, I’m a girl sometimes

    • ilyenkov [she/her, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      1 year ago

      Okay, I asked her to use more fem terms on me, to see how they feel. And she keeps saying I’m a good girl and uhhhhhhhjhhhhhjhhhh Also she said I looked like a cozy lesbian when I wore a flannel and felt awful cuz I thought I looked like a man. I love her so much And so I asked a bunch of friends and they all Saud shit like “oh yeah, you give fem vibes,” and “yeah I was surprised you used they/them not she/they”

      Why am I the last person to see something about myself??,n Life is confusing

        • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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          1 year ago

          It’s okay to have femme vibes! If it’s something you really like try presenting a little more femme and having people use she/they! Cis people kinda suck at the she/they and he/they pronouns, cause they never use the neutral one unless you put it first lol

          I’ve encountered plenty of enbys who only really have a gender amongst the trans, I dunno we all kinda get it and accept it.

  • sky@codesink.ioEnglish
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    1 year ago

    My wife’s girlfriend and one of her other girlfriends came over this weekend and we all got drunk and had a wonderful evening chatting about mental health and getting to know each other.

    It was nice. Polyamory is so cool. 🥰

  • stigsbandit34z [they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I wish I was less autistic so I could at least come out as nonbinary, but the crippling fear of being perceived as such is too much I swear to god

    This is why it is so nonsensical for people to keep telling me “stop caring what other people think” because what other people think and their perceptions of me quite literally shape my reality

    Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

    • Moss [they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      1 year ago

      this is me exactly but idk if im autistic. i worry so much about what people would think about me if i changed my name and apperance

  • rtstragedy [fae/faer, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    1 year ago

    sorry if this is the wrong place to post … after that thread last week (or was it just a few days ago??) i’m trying to become vegan, i’m assuming that will have some effect on hormone levels? does anyone have experience with that?

    • ElectronNumberSeven [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      1 year ago

      As far as I’m aware being vegan doesn’t really have any sort of effect on hormone levels. The whole thing about estrogen in soy is just a myth unfortunately. I’ve been vegan for 5 years and on HRT for 14 months with no problems.

      • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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        1 year ago

        Yeah, I can’t think of any mechanism in terms of diet and feminizing HRT. If anything, from what I’ve read in the literature, red meat (probably meat in general) increases T production - except I’ve also seen research that it drops sperm counts? So I dunno, I’d say go vegan with 0 concerns about how it effects or doesn’t hormone production. Especially if you regularly test hormone levels anyway.

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      1 year ago

      The ace people I’ve talked to who have sex usually talk about it like satisfying the urge to scratch an itch, like not fulfilling or something you’d seek out (who wants an itch just to scratch??) but something to be done nonetheless.