if you call everyone dude and a transfem person gets mad about it, don’t get defensive. just say like “sorry, i won’t do it again” and don’t argue “actually it’s gender neutral” or “i call everyone dude”. even if you do, i guarantee she’s heard that argument from someone who very much does not call people they see as women dude. i certainly have

same goes double for the word guy.

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    Yes I know the opinion is controversial, that’s why I’m unsure of on it, and hence want to start a discussion with knowledgeable and relevant people In order to either reject it or become less unsure on it.

    What I’m trying to communicate is that it’s still your opinion. It’s not an “Alternative take that i dont necessarily beleive in but has been bouncing around in my head a while.” It’s ok to be wrong about things, but you’re trying to put your “alternative take” into the conversation without ever having to accept criticism for having it.

    I take mild offense to the implication I am being dishonest on this issue. I understand that some people using devils advocate are doing so to push their views while distancing themselves from them in case the discussion “fails”. I am not doing that. If you are unable to believe me on that, then I do not believe there is any more productive conversation for us to have. My views do not get any more “extreme” than that, and I wanted to make that clear by expressing that even this, a view that may be controversial, is something that I am debating with myself and not a strongly held belief.

    Sure, I’m being (mildly) offensive, and I don’t really see much future for this is a productive conversation either.