I’m 99.9% sure it’s a specific person who’s doing it just to be petty and I am so fucking irritated that someone would narc on me to HR for being on my phone during work just because I didn’t take kindly to them talking down to me like a dog when going over paperwork mistakes with me a few weeks back

I talked discreetly with someone I can trust about it and they were pretty shocked that I said they had reported they felt “unsafe,” when multiple people who know me describe me as a teddy bear. It was pretty gut-wrenching to think someone feels unsafe around me because of misunderstanding me because I’ve been through that before, but the more I think about it the more I feel like someone is trying to weaponize the HR process against me because they don’t like me.

Just another reason for me to get the fuck out of this shit job

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    I once got a complaint to HR that I insulted a coworkers masculinity because I said his shoes were cool. The guy then quit the next day and in his exit interview he claimed I repeatedly talked to him like he was a woman. All I can remember is when I was training him I might have called him “hun” or “silly”? I have no idea. I often call people stuff like goober, goof, homie, hun, bud, etc.

    HR told me the entire office was laughing about it. I think maybe I accidentally gave the dude a kind of gay panic or something lmao

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    Yeah I hate it when people go to HR they are not your friend… They gonna resolve the situation one way or another. Kill them with kindness. It might take awhile, but eventually they will give up.

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    Until you escape just keep your head down by pretending you don’t even know who this person is (hope you haven’t told HR your suspicions yet… definitely don’t).

    If this continues, every time you go in hr just feign ignorance, look like feckless workerbee and lie like you did when you interviewed for the position…about how you love working, and you love your team,the company… Yaknow the game. The good news about HR is they aren’t there for the complainant either and they just added another mark on their record (unlikely it is the first) as someone who doesn’t work well with others.

    I won against my useless boss in her petty hr war by doing precisely this.

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      Oh, I’m not stupid. I discussed it in private with one of the only coworkers I can actually trust and I know he won’t blab about it to anyone, and the only other people I’ve told are my girlfriend and my older brother. The person in question I don’t really feel like I’m on speaking terms with anyway and I’ve been avoiding them for a while. I’ll just mask extra hard from now on and go completely emotionally dead unless I’m with a customer. Time to armor up again.

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    someone made an HR complaint about me for being on my phone too often and slamming down objects loudly when upset

    The “someone” in question: so-true

    I bet this “someone” browses r/neoliberal and goons to IDF e-girls, inflation graphs, and farm animals.

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    I’m going to over a possible counter view, with the caveat that I don’t know your specific situation.

    I’m not a big guy, in fact, I don’t see myself as a guy at all. Certainly I don’t think of myself as intimidating in any way. And yet, I’ve come to learn over the years that when I get upset/angry, people absolutely do find it threatening. It’s a hard thing to understand because it doesn’t match my self image at all, and it’s not something I can control. I feel like, “Who could possibly be intimidated by me?? I’m just a little nonbinary entity!” But for whatever reason, they do, and I’m in the process of learning how to adjust my expectations accordingly.

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      I’m actually pretty big, six feet tall with a big booming voice. It’s not out of the question that somebody who doesn’t know me could be intimidated by me. But I guarantee you the person I’m thinking of isn’t actually scared or feeling unsafe. Uncomfortable, maybe, since I can be moody, but we’ve worked together for years and they know I’m also a big fucking pussy who wouldn’t hurt a fly and in fact goes out of his way to rescue bugs from other people before they can smash them. I plucked a live bee off a coworker so I could place it on the flowers outside once.

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      Those people should drink a big glass of shut the fuck up juice, we are allowed to feel upset. Clearly they are :shrug-outta-hecks: and allowed to threaten your job to boot.

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      There will always be a need for resolving interpersonal conflicts in workplaces. HR though predominantly exists to protect the company from any liability and secondly to maintain the hierarchy and retain the labor it values the most.

      Conflict resolution under socialism could be much more humanistic, focused on actually resolving the conflicts and getting the best outcomes for workers. However nothing will ever be perfect, sometimes conflicts will not be resolvable, the truth of circumstances unknowable or some people truly indispensable so I imagine there will still be instances where justice is not accomplished. Though under socialism at least you would not be as dependent on your job just to be allowed to exist and therefore considerably more free to hit the bricks if shit sucks.

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          Those are possibilities but we can only speculate on what form a future society might take. It might structurally resemble existing HR only with mediators and investigators whose interests are more aligned with the workers rather than with capital, it could be a completely different thing born from entirely new social conditions that we can’t imagine.

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      will hr be needed under socialism

      How is this a question?? Even in modern Russia with the, hr departments are still called “cadre departments”.