I wear basketball shorts to work out and shit is so annoying

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    19 days ago

    As someone who’s gotten out of many a swimming pools worrying about this exact issue, I have learned to live with my penis in harmony and realized no one cares. Now I can wear my lemon board shorts in peace 🍋

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      Maybe it’s just because I have bottom dysphoria and a massive cock, but I feel like it’s kinda hard not to notice a whole fuckin sub sandwich stuffed down someone’s pants. I don’t look at people’s genital areas, it makes me feel invasive, but some people are too well endowed not to notice

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        Fair enough, I’m pretty well endowed but I’ve never really noticed people staring at my crotch, maybe it’s just because I don’t have the dysphoria so I’m not very sensitive to it.

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        19 days ago

        I literally never check out dudes’ packages and it’s probably due to the homophobia I experienced as a child lmao. I wouldn’t even be able to reliably locate and grab a peen unless it’s just underwear and it’s absolutely TURGID

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          I get that, I identify as bi, but there’s a lot of internalized homophobia and trauma from men that keeps me from ever being sexual with them. I guess it’s just a level of intimacy I don’t feel comfortable giving, even if it’s a one way street like looking at someone

          The only time I can remember ever looking at someone else’s dick was when I was in a parking lot in the city facing the sidewalk. Some guy running on the side walk was fucking HUNG and was not wearing compression shorts. You could see that shit flopping a solid foot in front of him. And I’m just in the front seat of the car, unable to really avert my gaze anywhere else. I wasn’t seeking it, but I definitely saw it

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            Probably TMI,

            Yeah only some dudes can get it but I’m still truly stuck on one I never came out to… And one that ghosted me but that might’ve been strictly for the dickly because he was a lib who bought stocks in crypto and preordered a cybertruck. Otherwise they feel great on the prostate(they=male penis havers, since I’ve not sought out anyone trans because I don’t wanna be called a chaser and won’t bother someone t4t because I’m not sure if, imo, my trans ness is valid, even though I’ve had so many various egg thoughts since I’ve been young, but with the latest struggle session, feel like I lack the required internalized misandry I guess. Would be nice to feel the touch of a woman again though ngl. ;3 Plus if I’m accidentally microdosing(intentionally being fed copious amounts of) estradiol because my trans partner dropped ( carefully measured and folded in) their (our) medication(tiddie Skittles) , I guess I could live with the results(as long as I’d fuck me and I could reach my transition goals [somewhere between beetle o roukes recent burning man post and leanbeefpatty, and idk definitely a bit of healthy chonkyness like a few exes or lovers I’ve had ] ) Girth is def worth, length is overrated. shrug-outta-hecks

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              Your transness is valid dipshit, it came free with your fucking Xbox the concept of identity

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                Yeah yeah. But I feel like it’s been largely unexplored, cept the porniness aspect and attempting to visualize via SC filters. Guess I gotta take a couple Skittles when I can afford them and if it’s not for me then I’ll stop. But I prolly won’t :3

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    The easiest way to do this is tight underwear, loose pants over it. Actually a wide skirt always works regardless of what you’re wearing under it, but idk if you want to make being the dude who works out in a kilt your thing.

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        You’re getting a lot of people with dicks too small for a print responding. Compression shorts are your only answer, and even then they aren’t that good at hiding it. Tucking doesn’t work for exercise, having tape down there while trying to do anything physically strenuous on your legs is just asking for it to all come undone. Also if you have a substantial print, you probably don’t even have enough room down there to tuck. Just make sure you buy a pair of compression shorts that has enough room for your dick, you’d rather go too big than too small.

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          dicks too small

          Hehe I wish.

          I suck at formatting spoilers freely, be warned my asexual comrades and any young adults(I hope you’re at least 18 if your reading this, istg), below is sexual exploratory talk. Don’t comb my comments later and bully me about this shit. And also for the record, for any vocel police convicting me of horny posting, I’d like to make it known, I’m completely and utterly flacid angry-place Anyways…

          Lowkey think wearing tighter underwear, pants and uhhhh starting the lawn mower, a lot, does a bit to incur shrinkage, but it could also be from lack of exercise and lessening of blood flow that I had had when I was 12 years younger. A cage would work but um, for me I haven’t gotten past a weird recursive loop where I just keep getting harder and I get slightly worried about wether or not my peen (and balls I guess, don’t need kids rn anyways) could be damaged by how hard it strains against it… And then it strains harder at that thought… But a cage would probably show through more than a flaccid peen unless it’s one of the ones that you’ve worked into over time and it’s practically flat.

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            MOOD LOL

            Yeah I want to get a cage at some point. My dick is too big, I’ve thought about this a lot before and I would feel infinitely happier with a smaller dick. But also the thought of making my dick smaller gets me too excited and all of a sudden I’m rock hard.

            Also, can’t work out in a cage, you ever heard a transwoman play DDR?

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              Also the best way I can describe the whole ordeal with the cage is the hulk ripping through his clothes. Like the ring that goes around everything is the shorts and the peen shield(actual cage part) is the shirt.

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              I forgot the name of the ghost from a Christmas Carol(e?), the one that worked with scrooge. I imagine it’d sound like that if they had a metal cage. Just wear MORE jingly things, they’ll never know. I have to imagine it though because I missed the memo on ddr and fast footwork in general. It’s not my thing but I might at least get an agility ladder or something similar (maybe jump rope? Again not a thing I did as a kid and I definitely have trauma from failing to do jumping jacks properly after a hiatus from kindergarten or 1st grade to 5th grade. (Used to) Only know fast (running) in a given direction and no fall down (or redirect inertia when do).

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            starting the lawn mower, a lot, does a bit to incur shrinkage

            This is actually the opposite. Penises very much follow a “use it or lose it” rule. Every single trans woman is informed that even if sexual interest collapses during hormone therapy they must keep using the penis prior to surgery or else. This is important because more to work with is better for surgery outcomes.

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              I’ve read that it could be caused by EXCESSIVE masturbation (which my gooner brain is happy to oblige), but you could be right and it’s been other factors, issues, and simply aging.

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          Yeah I grow / don’t realize my own print or really care, only time I do care is when it’s flopping around a bit(at least when I was a young lad, I thought I was smol not like smol smol but definitely felt like I didn’t have ENOUGH peen because toxic masculinity and patriarchy and other incelious comorbidities) Now it’s more like ok look, but no touch me ( unless you’re a beefy bear man or a nerdy alt chick who can tolerate me and my shenanigans).

          • LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves]@hexbear.net
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            I feel that so much. I loved skinny jeans in middle school because I’m trans, but didn’t realize why people would laugh at me until years later when I realized that I was not average, but well above average. Nowadays, I’m mostly demi though. I can’t even imagine sleeping with someone I’m not intimately connected with unless I’m drunk. I don’t really care too much about people looking as long as they’re respectful, but no touching unless I love you.

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              Yeah but I can usually love anyone, unless they got a LOT of stuff going on or it just doesn’t click. I feel like it’s a mix of demi, aesthetics, and shared hobbies (usually nerd stuff), and if they’ve got a STRONG sex drive and don’t mind my pervy musings, jokes, or exploration. also they need to at least be a lib (and that might be succdem at this point)