It’s an Elon post so obviously he’s just bullshitting, but I’ve seen this kind of sentiment among Amerikkkans broadly throughout my life, from the days of the Global War Of Terror up to now. It’s even a common insult/comeback in media for basically any mildly disruptive behavior. Why the fuck is there this mindset that the only reason someone would ever protest or challenge the government because they don’t have a job? Or that somehow having a job places you under a magical trance that makes you Fall In Line? For a country that emphasizes “”“freedom”“” USians sure love the idea of being subservient for money.
In my experience the social status of stay at home moms depends on their status in the racial and economic hierarchy.
Racialised women who stay at home to take care of their children are seen as “welfare queens”, leeching off the tax money of hardworking (white) people and as insulting the nation itself by refusing to be “integrated” by joining the labour market.
At the other end of the spectrum, white financially comfortable women who stay at home are perceived largely positively as someone who really cares about their children
In all cases stay at home moms are coded as female with all the nasty misogyny that goes with that. Whether a stay at home mom is denounced as a non-Aryan subhuman or lauded as an epic tradwife she is not considered a “serious” person the same way male-coded people would be.
I think all care is demonized, only in different ways. Care work, especially if not monetarily remunerated, is seen as “women’s work” and therefore less important than wage labor.