I am so conflict-avoidant that I’m now at the point that most people in my life don’t actually have any idea I’m even close to being a commie. I really want to start expressing myself more openly and honestly - especially since I feel like I’m actually harming my mental health by not saying how I feel - but I always feel held back. Any tips on improving this are appreciated.
Mostly through finding not speaking my mind gets me the same crap over and over. If you speak up there’s at least some kind of result, it can be negative but at least things move forward. I generally try to be clear and to the point if expressing something that could lead to conflict. Short declarative sentences and if you can phrase it in a way that makes it clear you will broker no debate you just kinda get to go off whenever. You have to know your shit well enough to stick to the point and avoid rambling. Also if there is a back and forth take note of anything the other person won’t address or talks around and make them address it directly. You’re not talking around the subject and they don’t get to mislead you to irrelevancies. Be a straight shooter, don’t mince words and don’t let others derail