• MTK@lemmy.world
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    50 minutes ago

    The nice thing about not being naturally attractive is that as I get ilder and start to freak out about my physical health, I get better looking.

    So for the most part I’m happy about always looking my best because dear god I’m gonna die at 40 if I don’t start working on my health now.

  • peoplebeproblems@midwest.social
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    4 hours ago

    Fuck that I look way better.

    I look older, sure. With less hair. A lot more single. But I’m down 90lbs and I’ve finally figured out style

    • Lemminary@lemmy.world
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      2 hours ago

      Same here. I’m getting a lot more attention from people who I thought were way out of my league when I was younger.

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        41 minutes ago

        Weirdly this is true.

        I’m a lot less attractive in my appearance but aparently more attractive as a person.

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        Oh I haven’t gotten any attention, mostly because I don’t get out of the house much.

        I could. Probably should take a cooking class or something

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    I think guys usually look better when they get older. More charisma, confidence. Not all but quite a lot.

    And I think the attraction level of genders change. Women are super attractive when they are 20, but its hard for them to stay attractive when they are 40. For men its the other way around… They look better at 40 than 20, and age better.

    Of course just my opinion.

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    I’d change that as : “Being an adult is mostly realizing you didn’t look as bad as you thought you did because the only person that was concerned about that was you. Everyone else was doing their own thing focusing on themselves, just like they are now.

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      I’ve always loved the word “sonder”. Knowing that people have their own lives and thoughts and usually they aren’t centered on you at all is liberating. I wish I had run across this as a kid, to realize that the peer pressure I thought was there giving me anxiety was totally self-inflicted and I could just be myself.

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    5 hours ago

    is there any sub where I can post my pictures to get a female eye on it? Lately I’ve been feeling very meh about myself

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      Honestly I just want some ideas for mixing up my style. I’m jealous of my wife and daughter for all of the fun dresses and jewelry and whatnot they can do but masculine outfits don’t really allow for many options

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      Reddit has subs for that but people are really not fair. Pretty people post pics of themselves and say they look awful. Yeah right.

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    Nah, with age I become wiser and my look is more or less stable for the last 20 years. Just more white hair but that doesn’t look bad.

    You’re maturing wrong :)

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        Partly! Some women explode out the gate with a little age on them. My ex-gf was pretty in her 30s, but in her late 40s would turn heads when she walked in the room. And then there are the plain Janes in high school that turn out OMFG years later.

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          All the high school girls I’ve seen have gotten fat, more ugly, still thirsty and dressing slutty, partying but have fallen off the wagon of beauty or so it seems. Some still got it so to say but it’s definitely not the same. Health is wealth people. The younger you start or just avoid bad shit the better off life isn’t linear. Alcohol is poison. Smoking is poison. Edibles are safer but again nothing is good.

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        Yes, men definitely grow old better when it comes to looks. Women live longer than men though.

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          It’s not the absence of youth that makes women less beautiful. It’s the absence of representation.

          Men at 45: “distinguished.” Women at 45: “expired.” It’s not biology—it’s storytelling. We don’t see ugly old men as ugly—we see them as powerful, confidant, sexy. We don’t see aging women at all.

          That’s not nature. That’s propaganda

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            Yes it’s societal values, you’re framing the narrative much too negative though. Old age for women isn’t all bad, older women stereotypically radiate trust and comfort for example. Look at Betty White and Dolly Parton, their age is a strength to them.

            My previous comment was just about beauty. Superficial, societal, subjective beauty. Women are much more beautiful than men in general, but that usually fades with time. The beauty of men never tops that of women, but it can still grow with age.