I know now to stay away from dating people who have any trace of racism towards me. I don’t understand why this happens though. Just that there’s a corelation.
Honestly, if I have to be frank, it’s because race fetishism is racism.
People too often get in this mentality that “benevolent racism” is not a form of racism, but it is.
It may manifest differently than how people perceive a Klansman’s racism, but it is still racism.
It stems from the same objectifying mentality that dehumanizes people, strips them of their characteristics as individuals, and reifies pseudoscientific tropes that get packaged into categories we know as “races.”
Also, some answers here center right-wingers specifically, but to be clear, race fetishism is not an issue specific to right-wingers. Not even close. If anything, it is one of the most common forms of racism for leftists to engage in because it is a lot more socially acceptable, especially since we have many unconscious POC who see no issue with it and lean into it, so pushback is too damn rare.
If anything, it is one of the most common forms of racism for leftists to engage in…
This is so true and honestly I think most conscious yt ppl know it’s racism in their heart but actively refuse to accept their own introspection. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve had to reassure my boyfriend he’s not being too sensitive when some fwb lets the race play slip and turns my love into a sex object.
there’s no motion to a racist fetish that started as a racist fetish, surely there’s a unique mechanism for obsessive hatred turning into taboo lust?
It can be, but it is not necessarily always the case. I guess I should’ve specified that clearly. Race fetishism alone, even without such an obsessive hatred precipitating it, is still a form of racism. I see aggressive racial hatred and racial fetishism as stemming from the same mentality—an objectifying or degrading one—either way, no different than how sexually objectifying women, be it in a performative “nice guy” fashion or in the manner of some manosphere bro, is in and of itself misogynistic. On the surface, they may just appear to manifest in different ways.
I guess I should’ve specified that clearly. Race fetishism alone, even without such an obsessive hatred precipitating it, is still a form of racism
no i got that and you’re objectively correct
I see aggressive racial hatred and racial fetishism as stemming from the same mentality—an objectifying or degrading one—either way, no different than how sexually objectifying women, be it in a performative “nice guy” fashion or in the manner of some manosphere bro, is in and of itself misogynistic. On the surface, they may just appear to manifest in different ways.
i think we’re talking past eachother a little.
when rightwingers hate something they spend all day thinking about it and that obsession turns to lust.
i have things i hate and i spend as little time thinking about them as possible
Is this why cuck porn is super-popular among the right?
that’s one of the ideas, idk how rigorously it’s been studied.
we really need another Kinsey (that addresses and doesn’t repeat the various problems with the original studies)
Taboo plays a big role probably
All those dopamine receptors fried from the constant consumption of porn… you’re definitely right
How in the world did you get “porn fries your dopamine receptors” from Aradino’s comment
Other comments kinda got me thinking about it more abstractly lol.
The taboo feeling probably makes them feel something new compared to the consumption of their regular stuff.
It could be the “step-bro” stuff that’s so widely consumed now, to “interracial cuckoldry” that didn’t previously have a wide consumption base to getting normalized.
Maybe I’m being an armchair psychologist but I have seen people (mainly work acquaintances) discussing their porn consumption habits and I was baffled at what they feel is normal to discuss with their coworkers.
lol where the hell do you work? I’m well into my 30s, have held a good half-dozen jobs, and I have never, ever seen anyone discuss porn in the workplace.
Many places lol, but think food service / other manual labor
Objectification of women, reducing them down to their value in sex. Of course men get race fetishized by women, and it happens with non-hetero people, but I imagine it all stems from how the patriarchy treats sex as conquest.
race play is gross to me. I suppose it can be consensual but it gives me ick.
I mostly have dated outside my race but it really hasn’t been by design. I met my boyfriend on grindr and part of the reason I wanted to connect with him was because his profile said “I am NOT your BBC” (the other reason was that he looked hot in kakashi cosplay)
I know now to stay away from dating people who have any trace of racism towards me.
:very-smart:
I think generally it is due to conservative indoctrination from birth installing the bigotry and that eventually being in conflict with their actual desires. Their families and/or religions tell them what to think before puberty and then eventually they grow up and can’t help but be sexually attracted to whoever they are into, but their brains keep repeating that it is forbidden. This type of repressive spiraling leads to more and more drastic behavior due to shame and guilt as they are forced to hide their inner truth from themselves and their communities. We see this with homophobia and trans chasers as well
Racism dehumanizes the target, and objectification of targeted people makes them the target of suppressed sexuality.
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Having a type is one thing, bringing race and its social implications into the bedroom/relationship for the sake of sexual excitement is when it gets gross.
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