if you call everyone dude and a transfem person gets mad about it, don’t get defensive. just say like “sorry, i won’t do it again” and don’t argue “actually it’s gender neutral” or “i call everyone dude”. even if you do, i guarantee she’s heard that argument from someone who very much does not call people they see as women dude. i certainly have

same goes double for the word guy.

  • Angel [any]@hexbear.netMEnglish
    31·
    9 months ago

    It’s not that hard to be decent and respectful.

    All it comes down to is owning up to it.

    “Hey, I don’t like it when you call me that, so can you please not?”

    “Oh, I’m sorry. I won’t call you that again.”

    vs.

    “Hey, I don’t like it when you call me that, so can you please not?”

    “Well, have you ever tried not getting offended when I call you that? You’re being too sensitive!”

    Everyone has their own personal boundaries for comfort, even beyond things like gender. People just like to emphasize forgetting this principle for transgender people to show them as “crazies” and deny them their personhood due to their own hatred.

    • Cromalin [she/her]@hexbear.netOPMEnglish
      15·
      9 months ago

      yeah. if you say ‘‘sorry, but i call everyone dude’’ (which i’ve seen several times) that isn’t an apology! just apologize for accidentally being rude and i guarantee everyone will be chill and you can move on