My spouse’s mom brought edibles to thanksgiving for us to take before having to interact with the rest of the family, and boy howdy did I underestimate her tolerance for weed. I took a quarter of one of her supergummies and I’m melting

This year is the third year where my extended family has completely severed ties with me in regards to family events/holidays.

The reason hasn’t been given to me directly, but based on what my father has told me it’s probably because I’m non-binary or that I’m “scary” to all my evangelical family because I work out, I wear thick eyeliner and I have bracelets with spikes. Like I’m clearly some type of queer leftist punk by demeanor and appearance and that’s simply who I am and have been for a long time. My grandmother died of covid in 2021, days before the vaccine was commercially available. She was the matriarch of the whole extended family and she loved me dearly. No one would dare speak against her in regards to me being present. I was tolerated so long as meemaw would shoot them a dirty look or brandish her wooden spoon if someone started speaking ill of me. My meemaw was an absolute real one, grew up in poverty in the 1930s, daughter of a community pastor, and overall the sweetest person I’ve ever known. She had such an immense love inside of her. She practically raised me too, I got my first lessons from her on why racism is evil and how you should treat people with kindness and appreciation.

Now that she’s gone the matriarch and planner seems to be my deranged fundamentalist aunt. At one point my aunt was the principal of my middle school where she was known by the students as “lady Hitler.” She would frequently make disparaging remakes about the Latino students and once made a morning announcement that all Christians should be wary of secret Muslims sneaking into America. This was in the early 00s so she never got fired for blatant discrimination like that, instead she ended up superintendent of the whole district a few years later.

Yeah so if my aunt is in charge of extended family plans, I’m probably never going again. My parents, bless them, actually didn’t attend thanksgiving last year or this one because they figured out I was deliberately excluded. Apparently there was an incident where my uncle tried shooting the shit with his brother (my dad) in 2022 about me. Uncle was saying something to the effect of “this is a lot nicer without that commie (slur) isn’t it?” He said this thinking my dad would go along with it, but it ended up turning into shouting. Dad actually defended me, said I was smarter and more kind than anyone at the whole table. I’m just some dumb goofus, but it touched me to hear my dad defended me like that from all the bullies in my family.

My parents are actually super chill with me, despite being a little nuts and racist themselves, they’re just standard American type of deranged, not the red pill maga christian fascist type of American. So my parents don’t tolerate their kids being called slurs or disparaged by family, thankfully.

Anyway. I’m thankful that I’m healthy and I have two lovely cats. I only have one human friend, but she’s very dear to me. And you’re all my comrades and you’ve always been super nice to me. Thank you

Getting deadnamed: the holiday

Love to get ruthlessly dogpiled for being the only one to make thanksgiving political when I tell someone that “No, actually Europe is not an authoritarian country for having different driving tests than the United States”

Aaaaaawaaaaaaaaaqqqqqaaaaaaaaaaaa

The amount of “you need to beat the shit out of kids” I’ve heard this trip lol. And conservatives wonder why they get cut off lol

Only had one nword this thanksgiving but thats a new record low.

It’s been a year since I spoke to my family, and this is the first thanksgiving I’m missing. I can’t do it anymore. I’m tired of never having my thoughts and feelings taken seriously, either because I’m a child and therefore lesser than my parents, or because I’m a communist. They begged me to be a libertarian instead a couple years ago, lmao (they’re liberals, or at least they think they are). The final straw was Palestine. Everyone called me antisemitic last Thanksgiving, and I’m not dealing with that again.

The distance has let me reflect on how my parents raised me. Although they never hit me, there were a few fucked-up situations that with hindsight prove they never respected me. They think they love me, but they don’t. They love the concept of me as a relatively successful son, and familial peace.

It would be nice to have a family, but I’m so exhausted by it. I’ve never really had a good relationship with my family, so I don’t even know what it would look like if I forgave them and they magically changed how they speak to me. I hope they get over their racism and transphobia, but I can’t try to change them anymore

I already had a wonderful friendsgiving with a bunch of lovely people, and I’m going to my friend’s family’s Thanksgiving tonight. She’s lost family in Gaza and the West Bank this year.

My family is at least liberal so it’s not that bad. Actually, my uncle called the Senate a “reactionary institution” out of nowhere.

Someone in my family told me he did an environmentalist at one point, so he’s a pretty cool guy.

“I hope I can avoid chuds on Thanksgiving.”

monkey’s paw curls and im surrounded by white PMC liberals.

Wish me luck chat, into the lion’s den I go. I’ll try not to fedpost IRL to maintain Hexbear’s opsec.

Edit: Maine.

my family is cool and i don’t have conservatives in my relations

Can’t take this shit anymore dog. Just going about my life, seeing the same old traditionalist bullshit and family values pervasive notions that are fucking cancer cells. The same garbage that causes generational trauma, treating your fucking kids like livestock and comparing their “beauty” and “purity” seems like something out of a parody of a crumbling fascist society (if it quacks like a duck)

No politics talk but this shit is oozing conservative values. A great example why I don’t give a fuck if you call yourself liberal or republican while living this Godamn life and continuing the cycle that should be dismantled

shitty holiday

I’m happy i’m not American so I only have to deal with this shit on Christmas, can’t imagine living through 2 events like this in less then a month

I was kind of pressured into attending my new boss’s Thanksgiving since I’m temporarily 5 hours from home. I’ve only known him like 3 days so I have no idea who any of these people are. So far the food is good and nobody has said any crazy shit, so better than I expected. Will update once people get drunk.