An ex of mine literally fetishized autism, told me I reminded her of Leonard. She did not like hearing that Sheldon was better than Leonard but that I didn’t like BBT anyway. Months after we broke up, she posted a picture of Leonard on Facebook, saying how she wished more people were like Leonard
They didn’t understand the struggles of ASD at all, said “You’re fine the way you are, why aren’t you more confident about it? Just be yourself”. Given that 80% of my social interactions are masking, that doesn’t help me at all lol
You’re fine the way you are, why aren’t you more confident about it? Just be yourself
for what it’s worth, it’s basically impossible to explain how the first twenty years of your life amount to getting violently punished every time you try to “be yourself” to someone who hasn’t experienced that
One of my favorite things about having kids has been being autistic af around them and them returning the favor without blinking an eye. None of us round when we talk about the time. We make random stim noises at each other. We are very frank about our feelings and compensate for that by setting and enforcing explicit boundaries.
My oldest told me last week, “I know there’s nothing wrong with what you’re doing, but I’m finding it annoying which is a sign that I’m probably overstimulated, so I’m sorry to interrupt what we’re doing but I’m going to go take a break and come back when I’m more regulated. If I’m not back in 20 minutes, I probably got distracted, so can you set a timer to come check on me?” Reflecting on it now, I could sob. If I’d had that level of insight and communication skills at their age I would have saved myself a LOT of pain. It’s not their job to make me proud, but I am so proud anyway.
My oldest told me last week, “I know there’s nothing wrong with what you’re doing, but I’m finding it annoying which is a sign that I’m probably overstimulated, so I’m sorry to interrupt what we’re doing but I’m going to go take a break and come back when I’m more regulated. If I’m not back in 20 minutes, I probably got distracted, so can you set a timer to come check on me?”
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That is genuinely awe inspiring. Good on them and good one you for nurturing this.
a relative of mine once told me “you remind me of sheldon!!”
I had a similar experience where the most :LIB: and the most :scared-fash: of my extended family (they’re married to each other) said that I must be a big fan of The Big Bazinga Theory because I’m into nerdy things like… reading. :joker-shopping:
My pet theory is that anti-intellectualism in the US wasn’t really pushed until the 60s onwards, therefore its effects have most been felt after US global hegemony.
normies loved it
a relative of mine once told me “you remind me of sheldon!!” and I legitimately wanted to bazinga myself
I had a roommate that absolutely loved it and I’ve consequently seen at least the first 5-6 seasons several times over.
Every autistic person has heard this. Just like every person with dark hair and glasses has heard “you look like Harry Potter”.
I’ve also been compared to Hagrid, and as much I as I’m tired of hearing about those mediocre TERF YA novels I have to admit it’s kinda true
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The one thing I refuse to let go of from my childhood love of HP is my love of Hagrid tbh.
And yeah, I’m sort of sporting a Hagrid look these days myself.
An ex of mine literally fetishized autism, told me I reminded her of Leonard. She did not like hearing that Sheldon was better than Leonard but that I didn’t like BBT anyway. Months after we broke up, she posted a picture of Leonard on Facebook, saying how she wished more people were like Leonard
Sheldon isn’t even autistic, he’s just a cock
Wow new type of person just dropped???
They didn’t understand the struggles of ASD at all, said “You’re fine the way you are, why aren’t you more confident about it? Just be yourself”. Given that 80% of my social interactions are masking, that doesn’t help me at all lol
for what it’s worth, it’s basically impossible to explain how the first twenty years of your life amount to getting violently punished every time you try to “be yourself” to someone who hasn’t experienced that
One of my favorite things about having kids has been being autistic af around them and them returning the favor without blinking an eye. None of us round when we talk about the time. We make random stim noises at each other. We are very frank about our feelings and compensate for that by setting and enforcing explicit boundaries.
My oldest told me last week, “I know there’s nothing wrong with what you’re doing, but I’m finding it annoying which is a sign that I’m probably overstimulated, so I’m sorry to interrupt what we’re doing but I’m going to go take a break and come back when I’m more regulated. If I’m not back in 20 minutes, I probably got distracted, so can you set a timer to come check on me?” Reflecting on it now, I could sob. If I’d had that level of insight and communication skills at their age I would have saved myself a LOT of pain. It’s not their job to make me proud, but I am so proud anyway.
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That is genuinely awe inspiring. Good on them and good one you for nurturing this.
That makes me so happy to hear, I can’t imagine how much pain growing up in an environment like that would’ve saved me from
My wife and I are both autistic and we do similar things to you and your family, it’s really nice
That fucking sucks. Sorry about that.
Do you have any idea how much BBT I was made to watch? I can never unwatch it
Do you know the cat song?
I had a similar experience where the most :LIB: and the most :scared-fash: of my extended family (they’re married to each other) said that I must be a big fan of The Big Bazinga Theory because I’m into nerdy things like… reading. :joker-shopping:
How the hell did the US ever become a global hegemony if attitudes like this are a non-isolated incident? I’ve dealt with this attitude before.
immigrants. first gen immigrants who grew up without US brainworms.
The nerds are all working for weapons and aerospace manufacturers or DoD contracted software companies
its a big country
My pet theory is that anti-intellectualism in the US wasn’t really pushed until the 60s onwards, therefore its effects have most been felt after US global hegemony.