A woman who poured fuel on her friend and set him on fire for telling her to get back into the kitchen "completely lost it", a court has heard.

lol owned

  • Awoo [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    72·
    2 days ago

    Walpole had described Mr Loader as being antagonistic towards her throughout the night, trying to wrestle her and wake her sleeping boyfriend.

    “I was feeling overwhelmed by [Mr Loader’s] presence and I didn’t know what to do,” she told the court.

    Her anger then flared when Mr Loader told her she should stay in the kitchen making scones where she belonged, and not to go drinking with boys.

    She left the table where they were drinking to collect a five-litre container of petrol from her garage, and poured it on Mr Loader before waving around her lighter.

    Mr Loader said, “Go on, do it,” before Walpole set him on fire.

    Fuck around and find out tbh

  • bdonvrAEnglish
    85·
    2 days ago

    told her she should stay in the kitchen making scones where she belonged, and not to go drinking with boys.

    …

    [She got a] five-litre container of petrol from her garage, and poured it on Mr Loader before waving around her lighter.

    Mr Loader said, “Go on, do it,” before Walpole set him on fire.

    I won’t condone it but I’m not going to outright condemn it either

  • buckykat [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    333·
    2 days ago

    Crown prosecutor Max Pincott said Walpole had plenty of time to calm down.

    “You could have walked away from this, couldn’t you, but you didn’t,” he said.

    Prosecutor basically saying “well, why didn’t you just get back in the kitchen like the misogynist piece of shit asked you to?”

  • OptimusSubprime [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
    533·
    2 days ago

    You know what? Good on her. Not an overreaction to me. Sounds to me like Loader is the kind of fuckwit says misogynistic, and probably racist shit “as a joke” then tries to take it all back. I’m glad she checked his ass in the worst way possible.

    • some_dude@lemm.eeEnglish
      32·
      2 days ago

      You’re making a lot of assumptions based on very little knowledge of the situation.

      • corvidenjoyer [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        17·
        2 days ago

        Walpole had described Mr Loader as being antagonistic towards her throughout the night, trying to wrestle her and wake her sleeping boyfriend.

        Her anger then flared when Mr Loader told her she should stay in the kitchen making scones where she belonged, and not to go drinking with boys.

        Mr Loader said, “Go on, do it,” before Walpole set him on fire.

  • Drewfro66@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
    7·
    2 days ago

    I think this pretty clearly falls under “Fighting Words” legality. He insulted her honor, they fought in a battle of wills, he lost.

    • isame [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
      15·
      2 days ago

      I do tend to agree. But I also feel like there’s too much we don’t know. This guy didn’t get a little loaded and suddenly become a prick and she suddenly escalated to having her own personal burning man. They’ve known each other for years, apparently. This couldn’t have been an isolated incident. To me it feels like this was just the proverbial straw. A little liquid courage and marching powder, and we get a crispy Mr Louder.

      That all said, I don’t actually think this was an appropriate response still. But important to acknowledge what we don’t know. Obviously she could just not be friends with the guy, probably.

    • Xenomorph [comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
      43·
      2 days ago

      Yeah I’m going to say this is too much? I could totally see a nice open palm slap to the face or better yet a punch, but setting someone on fire, idk.

      • CupcakeOfSpice [she/her, fae/faer]@hexbear.netEnglish
        44·
        2 days ago

        I’d mostly agree, but it sounds like the dude just sat there while she poured fuel on him, and when she made the threatening gesture, decided in was in everyone’s best interest to continue egging her on. I feel like I would have been fleeing when she started trying to pour the fuel. Or I just wouldn’t make a misogynistic comment, but whatever I guess.

      • Mindfury [he/him]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
        252·
        2 days ago

        I’m going to say that based on the state they were all in, and that the guy was comfortable with saying this shit, we’d probably be looking at an article about femicide if she’d slapped him over the head (even playfully)

      • Damarcusart [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
        161·
        2 days ago

        I think a lot of people are assuming a history of this sort of behaviour. If this was the only time this guy acted like this, then yeah, it would be an extreme overreaction, but this guy has probably been a massive douchebag for years, and pushed this woman to her breaking point. Still doesn’t make it ok, but I think it makes it understandable why some would be pushed that far (and the alcohol and drugs probably helped dull any inhibitions as well)

      • Eiren (she/her)@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
        122·
        2 days ago

        people like mr loader are responsible for every rape, genital mutilation, etc. women have ever faced across the world so i suggest no holds barred until they each individually back up, reflect and apologise for their attitudes

        • ProfessorOwl_PhD [any]@hexbear.netEnglish
          164·
          2 days ago

          I think you’re grossly underestimating how much and how many women have to put up with this shit. You’re thinking of this as a single incident where a man told a women to get in the kitchen, when it’s actually years of that abuse.

          • Hermes [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
            131·
            2 days ago

            According to the article he was “heavily intoxicated”, not really a good time to be making life changing decisions like if you want to have 5 gallons of petrol poured on you and lit on fire. Even then, just because someone doesn’t flee or deescalate doesn’t mean they deserve to be lit on fire, holy shit.