Want to wade into the sandy surf of the abyss? Have a sneer percolating in your system but not enough time/energy to make a whole post about it? Go forth and be mid.

Welcome to the Stubsack, your first port of call for learning fresh Awful you’ll near-instantly regret.

Any awful.systems sub may be subsneered in this subthread, techtakes or no.

If your sneer seems higher quality than you thought, feel free to cut’n’paste it into its own post — there’s no quota for posting and the bar really isn’t that high.

The post Xitter web has spawned so many ā€œesotericā€ right wing freaks, but there’s no appropriate sneer-space for them. I’m talking redscare-ish, reality challenged ā€œculture criticsā€ who write about everything but understand nothing. I’m talking about reply-guys who make the same 6 tweets about the same 3 subjects. They’re inescapable at this point, yet I don’t see them mocked (as much as they should be)

Like, there was one dude a while back who insisted that women couldn’t be surgeons because they didn’t believe in the moon or in stars? I think each and every one of these guys is uniquely fucked up and if I can’t escape them, I would love to sneer at them.

(Credit and/or blame to David Gerard for starting this.)

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    in which our dearest friend DHH has become an unpaid shill for the novel Camp of the Saints

    https://xcancel.com/dhh/status/2046982319353778391

    nevertheless, the finest minds at hackernews and elsewhere have assured me that he’s just a normal, sensible center right kind of guy! nothing untoward going on here, i advise every boutique computer manufacturer known to man to financially support him and his hyprland reskin wankfest.

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    FTX investor the Ontario Teachers’ Pension Plan is a major investor in SpaceX. This seems to be part of the Teachers’ Innovation Platform from April 2019. Mr. Kipling said it best:

    As it will be in the future, it was at the birth of Man
    There are only four things certain since Social Progress began.
    That the Dog returns to his Vomit and the Sow returns to her Mire,
    And the burnt Fool’s bandaged finger goes wabbling back to the Fire.

    Meanwhile the Canadian stock market is up 40% in the past 1 year.

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    STOP FINDING THINGS

    • WEB PAGES WERE NOT MEANT TO BE FOUND
    • YEARS OF SEARCHING yet NO REAL-WORLD USE FOUND for PAGES of SEO-OPTIMISED AI SLOP
    • Wanted to find things anyway for a laugh? We had a tool for that: it was called WIKIPEDIA ā€œRANDOM PAGEā€
    • ā€œYes please give me ONE HUNDRED AND TEN MILLION of my search. Please give me TEN ADS and A PARAGRAPH OF SLOP FIRSTā€ - Statements dreamed up by the utterly Deranged

    LOOK at what Search engines have been demanding your Respect for all this time, with all the ad views we gave them

    (This is REAL Search results, given by REAL search engines)

    • ā€œNone of Africa’s 54 recognized countries start with the letter ā€˜K’.ā€
    • ā€œAdd about 1/8 cup of non-toxic glue to the sauceā€
    • ā€œUnderstood. No more templates—just direct answers, hyper-focused on exactly what you need.ā€

    ā€œHello Something went wrong and an AI response wasn’t generatedā€

    They have played us for absolute fools

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    Spring is in the air, and someone presenting themselves as interested in fucking rationalist males has authored a piece about how said men can dress a bit better and maybe, just maybe, get laid:

    https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/vHtouRBd8JNm2tNLH/basic-principles-for-dressing-better

    as usual, the real comedy is in the comments

    • I dress like a schlub specifically to avoid advertising my sexual availability - https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/vHtouRBd8JNm2tNLH/basic-principles-for-dressing-better?commentId=RLdXtcStz9wdAvb4d
    • ā€œThe item that I currently wear that expresses the most about me is my Oura ring followed by barefoot shoes.ā€ - strangely not the same as the commenter above
    • ā€œWhen it comes to slim fit jeans I have the impression that fashion changed. Five years ago they were seen as great and now they don’t? Is that accurate?ā€
    • ā€œOverall, I think it makes the most sense to go to the pareto frontier here. You can spend 300-400 total getting some nice looking earth tone button-ups, well-fitting pants that aren’t blue jeans, trim your beard, get regular haircuts from an actual salon, shower daily, and make sure you smell decent.ā€
    • ā€œ[…] when I look at the examples, what occurs to me is that dressing like the example would cause me to stick out and make it obvious to others I am making a special effort, and I’d rather not do that.ā€
    • "I was hoping for more fashion theory; the why. "
    • ā€œIt is fascinating to receive such communiquĆ©s of strange news from another star. I would not know, without your saying so, that the set of 10 pictures are intended to be good examples and not bad examples.ā€
    • ā€œ[…] it is far more important that whatever my spouse wears be a pleasant texture to put my face on, most buttondown material fails this criterion but linen passesā€ - actually this is just cute
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      ā€œIt is fascinating to receive such communiquĆ©s of strange news from another star. I would not know, without your saying so, that the set of 10 pictures are intended to be good examples and not bad examples.ā€

      To be fair most of said outfits read as ā€œrich arseholeā€ to me, which I do not find attractive. Yellow shirt guy I would suspect to be a white supremacist.

      As far as men’s fashion goes, I’ve seen much worse, though the bits I do like here feel fairly gay-coded to me so uh whatever. (I suspect those are the very same bits our Lesswrong Commenter is disapproving of.)

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          You know, ā€œmost of said outfitsā€ was too harsh. I’m gonna rate the outfits now, I love rating outfits!!!

          2, 3 and 10 look like men you should run away from.

          6 looks like he’s cosplaying as 60s italian movie riviera pinterest europe cinecitta, which I instinctively distrust. And I don’t care what anyone says, I will simply not abide the sockless loafer.

          4, whatever. I do not want to talk him. We clearly have nothing in common.

          8 is awesome. Looks like an actual cool guy, lovely outfit, love the pose. He’s what 6 wants to be.

          7 is pretty cool too. Have to dock points for the very modelly pose, sadly, but still, pretty sick fit.

          5 I don’t really like but he’s a more confidently realised version of 6 so good for him. Not tryhard or heterosexual-looking enough for me to hate. Keep it up.

          9 I am sure I would absolutely love if I saw it on someone who didn’t look like they were fresh out the male model factory. Bonus points for uncreased trousers.

          And finally 1 is obviously awesome but like. You cannot use this as an outfit recommendation. That’s just irresponsible. First the guy is buff as fuck and that is a necessary part of the outfit. It’s all about that mad silhouette. Second, I mean. This is pretty eccentric right. If you saw everyone dressing like this it would just be dumb. You cannot expect those poor lesswrongs to understand this.

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            serial killer
            serial killer
            serial killer
            serial killer
            serial killer
            serial killer
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            cool guy
            serial killer
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            Well now you’ve made me look at the image too long, too.

            #1’s belt probably wraps twice around that waistline, I’d say photoshop/AI but there’s that 1/3 of the shirt hanging off to the right with nothing to fill it so yeah, and also Phil Davis1 exists.

            #10 is aspiring to be the jock from scooby doo and I don’t think that jacket can actually close, similarly to #1 the whole thing probably only works for very specific poses and angles.

            #6 looks like he runs a leopard print handbag delivery service, #4 is horny youth pastor in his aunt’s kitchen, 7-9 look comfy but contrived, #5 really wants you to know he’s wearing a possibly expensive wife beater under that shirt and 2 & 3 are all sorts of dodgy, esp. #3 who looks like a tourist trap gift shop keeper whose face is noticeably untanned because he has to hide it a lot for undisclosed reasons.

            #2 mostly has a raging case of resting netflix true crime serial killer face syndrome.

            I get that the point probably was to only show the broad strokes of how it should look if you’re making an effort, but whatever.

            1

            Phil Davis

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            3 and 10 look like the overconfident, amateurish poser villains whom Dr. Lecter kills by the end of the episode.

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      If, like some of my male housemates you object on principle to the concept of a bag

      then you need to watch Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade again. From there, you can graduate to the Tom Holland ā€œUmbrellaā€ video, which is clinically proven to make cis het women ovulate.

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        And also, like, laptop bags exist? They come in basic black. You can use them for books, emergency chocolate, manila envelopes stuffed with students’ homework that you need to grade… I bought one at a camping-goods store, and it’s lasted about 20 years.

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      I can stare at the map view on airplanes all the way from takeoff to landing, so I think I will enjoy the trip.

      Well they do tend to think stuff scales forever.

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      As always with these people, note that the replies make frequent reference to ā€œloopholesā€ and people ā€œexploiting the systemā€ without ever being specific about what those loopholes are.

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      I don’t know Guillaume Verdon / Beff Jezos but Forbes’ profile begins:

      Andreessen Horowitz cofounder Marc Andreessen says @BasedBeffJezos is a ā€œpatron saint of techno-optimism.ā€ Garry Tan, who cofounded the venture firm Initialized Capital before becoming CEO of Y Combinator, calls him ā€œbrother.ā€ Sam Altman, who founded OpenAI — the company that finally mainstreamed artificial intelligence — has jokingly sparred with him on Twitter. Elon Musk says his memes are ā€œšŸ”„šŸ”„šŸ”„.ā€

      He has an entry on the Effective Accelerationism wiki https://www.eaccwiki.com/index.php?title=Beff_Jezos

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        I don’t know Guillaume Verdon / Beff Jezos

        He is supposed to be the original instigator and public face of so-called e/acc or effective accelarationism, i.e. the rationalist (or maybe rationalist inspired idk) spin-off of people who feel whinging about alignment isn’t necessary and that it’s in fact awesome when new technology is killing people and ruining the environment because it means we’re getting to the singularity faster, and also openly rooting for fascism on main is based now.

        His magic heatless AI processor startup feels like a grift to fleece investors and as far as I know has only ever produced an obviously staged video of sciency looking individuals fawning over a 3d printed wire mesh while touring what looks like a chip fab with an extremely lax contamination protocol.

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      The number of bitter fascist weirdos kicking Beff (of all people) while he’s down sure is something.

      No honor among thieves i reckon.

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        Isnt part of the fasc idea space the whole idea that the strong are worthy and would be rewarded and rise to the top the world just got away of all the rules pushing the unworthy? Clearly this means that as he is in trouble he is unworthy himself and now a target.

        Esp as you can get a social boost by stepping on him on your way up.

        The loneliest ideology.

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      xheet is deleted, was is Beff Jezoz who wrote that? background? though he was as American as apple piethe Ku Klux Klan

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        Forbes says he is Quebecois with a PhD from UWaterloo. That does not stop him tweeting about ā€œforeignersā€ (= foreign to the USA, but not including him obviously).

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          I’m sure he’ll enjoy being deported back to la RĆ©publique populaire dĆ©mocratique de Quebec and spending a short time in the reeducations camps before being set to work installing solar panels

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    Holy Empire of AI - Predictive History

    Once you have the AI state, you now have the technocracy and the world will be perfect.

    All right? Does it make sense you guys? What he’s saying here? This is an amazing paragraph written 40, 50 years ago.

    So, I’m not saying he’s a Freemason. I’m not saying he’s part of a society, but, he sure thinks like a Freemason.

    Zbigniew Brzezinski has been dead for nearly a decade, but sure, let’s play the hits. plus AI! /s

    Jiang hadn’t popped up in my feed in a while, guess he’s still at it. At least he’s reading Karen Hao, maybe some viewers follow his cites. He really should just write a Dan Brown novel or something, he’s obviously capable enough at lore dumping.

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    Can’t find the exact post rn but I remember an AI yt channel (im 90% sure it was the AISpecies guy) using this as proof that ASI is imminent, and conveniently left out the part at the end where they say this does not indicate that AI is now a general-purpose alignment scientist (and also left out the link to the sources in numerous posts iirc so no one could fact check him easily)

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      The heartwarming story of the PHI sponge helping the professional racist also hate fat people.

      Then again, there is a lot of synergy between the inevitable antifatness and his usual project of hating black people.

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      So a mid-sized software company called Epic is chatting with Cremieux / Jordan Lasker on twitter?

      If your employer is using their software, that might be something to email and ask for a meeting about.

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        All hospital systems I’ve used use Epic’s software for medical charting which is why I’m baffled

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      Also how would anybody be left behind? Lile say we are wrong an the AI stuff is real vital etc etc bla bla bla. Them we just need to learn a new tool.

      Nobody died because they didnt want to learn how to use a debugger for several years and then finally reversed their stance.

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        I guess the idea is that the tech economy moves fast and if we don’t get to grips with AI we’ll be left in the dust, broke and unemployed. Somehow this is proof that AI is good instead of proof the economy is bad (if people are impoverished in a whim). It’s just the same self-satisfied fantasy as always.

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      Owenomics is also worried about changing the rules to add SpaceX and OpenAI to NASDAQ and the S&P500 while only a tiny fraction of their shares are available for trading. "Bad idea. If float is too low, the market cap is meaningless and should not be relied upon for any purpose. "

      Back in January he said that the US stock market is not in a bubble until Robert Shiller’s ā€œCAPE rises to 80 (similar to Japan’s CAPE in 1989).ā€ The CAPE (a ratio of price to the average earning for the past ten years) of the S&P500 is around 40, similar to the US in January 2000.

      He does not mention new era thinking (chapters 5 and 6 of Shiller’s Irrational Exuberance).

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      This website is intended for the use of the wholesale clients only. I declare that I am a wholesale client as defined in the Corporations Act 2001. I declare that I will not provide any information on this website to a retail investor.

      Jokes on them I read the page without clicking the agree button here and without being a wholesale client!

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      I don’t think it’s actually going to be doing a lot of LLMing. It has a coprocessor for inference type stuff, but only 8GB of RAM on the SOC. So I assume they just stuck this in for marketing.

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      several other people have commented on the tone, and I believe it’s just because it’s massaged to be more marketing-ly

      same with the local LLM crap, it’s to appeal to investors

      I have seen nerds be mad at them for using Discord and GitHub too, some people are really hard to please

      doubt this will ever see the light of day anyway

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    A LWer of the female persuasion makes the entirely reasonable point that most screw-top openings are probably constructed by looking at median male grip strength, not female. But the real fun is in the comments, where people who can post comments on a blog are seemingly unfamiliar with opening jam jars.

    Women should be able to open things

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      I use grip gloves for opening jars and love them so much. Same ideas as plastic jar grips, but even easier. I find I usually have enough strength but that my skin is too sensitive to fully apply it without grip gloves.

      Maybe women just aren’t that into designing programming languages?

      James Damore flashbacks ohno

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      But anyways - why is there a vacuum in the jar? To preserve the jam? Isn’t jam a preserve? Like, I thought the whole raison d’etre of jam was as a way to make fruit keep, unrefrigerated, through the winter? Why must we preserve the preserve? Quis custodiet ipsos custodes?

      what is going on with these people i’m so annoyed i’m about to cry

      Why do so many containers require women asking a man for help in order to open them? (Or carrying around an opening tool or living in a kitchen?)

      how often do you open jam jars outside the kitchen?? it’s not that hard! you don’t actually have to force them open through grip strength like an idiot man!!

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        opening tool

        The flat end of a fork or spoon is usually enough to pop the vacuum. Which seems to be the issue in my exp.

        Not that using an opening tool is bad. We are tool users for a reason.

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        why is there a vacuum in the jar? To preserve the jam? Isn’t jam a preserve? Like, I thought the whole raison d’etre of jam was as a way to make fruit keep, unrefrigerated, through the winter? Why must we preserve the preserve? Quis custodiet ipsos custodes?

        I…basic common sense alone would tell you that something with a lot of fruit and a lot of sugar in it might spoil if left open outside of a fridge. Why do these people act like they’ve never seen a banana before

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          why understand biochemistry, if you’re part of the cognitive elite who can reconstruct it from first principles should it become necessary

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        Also, real talk: I got a jar opener when my wife moved in and it is a goddamn revelation how much easier that things makes life. Absolutely recommended purchase. You want to have a sandwich but you closed the jar before you came down with a cold? No worries. You stick the yeast towards the back of the fridge because you haven’t made your own bread since you got the cold and that was fuck long ago? Not a problem. You have a third reason why this fucking jar is stickier than you would normally have the capacity to handle (and trust me, you will)? Not anymore you don’t.

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        But anyways - why is there a vacuum in the jar? To preserve the jam? Isn’t jam a preserve? Like, I thought the whole raison d’etre of jam was as a way to make fruit keep, unrefrigerated, through the winter? Why must we preserve the preserve? Quis custodiet ipsos custodes?

        this is ā€œfucking magnets, how do they workā€ translated to rationalist, except that explaining magnets involves quantum mechanics and explaining jam jars involves high school physics (saturated vapor pressure vs temperature. that might be before high school). i also like how one linked explanation sits near two pieces of slop and is wrong

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          The comments section really is incredible, the level of ignorance about basic kitchen things, which since it’s womanly knowledge instead of dyson spheres they seem to be completely incurious about …

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            their practical skills are weak, and they won’t survive the winter (because they don’t know how to make jam)

            but frame the same physics in terms of what makes steam turbine spin, and they’ll pretend to get it but won’t apply it anywhere else. the longer you look the worse it gets. it’s like they have never watched how it’s made as kids

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              From the post linked therein:

              There’s this thing Nate and Eliezer do where they proclaim some extremely nonobvious take about alignment, say it in the same tone they would use to declare that grass is green, and don’t really explain it.

              Gambling? In this establishment?!

              Nate thinks in a different ontology from everyone, and often communicates using weird analogies

              This feels like a misuse of the word ontology, but what do I know?

              when Nate thinks you don’t understand something or have a mistaken approach, he gets visibly distressed and sad. I think this conditioned us to express less disagreement with him. I have a bunch of disagreements from his world model, and could probably be convinced to his position on like 1/3 of them, but I’m too afraid to bring them all up and if I did he’d probably stop talking to me out of despair anyway.

              Wow, that’s a bad research supervisor.

              The structure where we would talk to Nate 4h/day for one out of every ~6 weeks was pretty bad for feedback loops. A short meeting every week would have been better, but Nate said this would be more costly for him.

              Wow, that’s a bad research supervisor.

              (Every functional research group I’ve been part of has had weekly staff meetings. Even the undergrads were encouraged to participate and got at least that much talking time with the professor.)

              In my frustration at the lack of concrete problems I asked Nate what research he would approve of outside of the main direction. We thought of two ideas […] I worked on these on and off for a few months without much progress, then went back to Nate to ask for advice. Nate clarified that he was not actually very excited about these directions himself, and it was more like ā€œI don’t see the relevance here, but if you feel excited by these, I could see this not being totally uselessā€.

              Wow, that’s a bad research supervisor.

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                Wow, that’s a bad research supervisor.

                Yeah that jumped out at me. Esp with the reasoning it is costly for him. Extremely disfunctional hierarchy

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                  My wild guess is that if you put a few lesswrongen into a room and told them to invent a ā€œresearch instituteā€, they’d write a book of procedure for the sake of having a lot of words about procedure, without any actual sense of how to allocate responsibilites properly.

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                This feels like a misuse of the word ontology, but what do I know?

                They keep doing it and it drives me mad!! I finally understood that they got the word from computer shit and not philosophy. Isn’t it just amazing? Here we thought they were vaguely aware of established philosophical concepts for a second!

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              What The Shit

              I’ve been dating Nate for two years (tho wanna clarify we are not doing marriage-kids and we’re both actively looking for more serious other partners).

              Nate is profoundly wonderful in many ways, like often surprises me in new ways of wonderfulness, and has raised my standards in partners. He’s deeply caring, attentive, competent, hilarious, and of course brilliant.

              […]

              Iirc he’s explicitly said he doesn’t respect my thinking (edit: he clarifies he respects it in some areas but not others)

              The way these people are larping conflict resolution is so exhausting aaaaaaa please can you just do normal abuse

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                From elsewhere in the comments:

                … I am constantly aware that having an angry outburst is massively socially unacceptable, to the point where if I let such things happen regularly I would lose my job / my standing in the community / all my friends / everyone close to me. This creates an extremely strong incentive for me to self-regulate at least my outward reactions, even when it’s really hard. But because Nate is so high-status, he is allowed to make such outbursts without being faced with losing his job, his standing in the community, or his friends. This means he is insufficiently incentivized to self-regulate, and thus has been unable to learn.

                High-status? Why?!! Jesus H. Fuck, I hope that if anyone ever gives me a get-out-of-social-consequences-free card, it’s for a better reason than my blogging.

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              D: Not only does this community have a missing stair, but they’re all explaining to each other how to avoid the missing stair, and the missing stair is in the chat replying to comments?!

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              So much debate about whether his employer was diligent enough at tyre-pumping when the obvious solution is ā€œpump your own tyres yourself, you buffoonā€

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        Oh and I’m curious now, but can’t be bothered to look it up myself in this slop era,

        Has anyone done a men’s vs women’s grip strength study controlling for hand size, height, etc? I’d love to know what the results would be.