• rekabis@lemmy.caEnglish
    12·
    13 hours ago

    This was the only real option. Any other choice other than not even responding could have offended.

  • Smaile@lemmy.caEnglish
    8·
    18 hours ago

    Idk how girls would react to this but I’m telling you every guy here thinks this man is a champion and we haven’t even seen him lol

  • BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.todayEnglish
    24·
    1 day ago

    Can’t blame a guy for taking a shot. What’s the worst that could happen? They all get disgusted and blow him off? He’s no worse off than he was.

    But then later that night, the one who is the secret super freak, excited that the guy actually proposed a 4 way, calls him for a mind-blowing booty call.

    • Jarix@lemmy.world
      English
      313·
      1 day ago

      If hes a decent server he would remember whos bills were who’s by the items on them

      • Axolotl@feddit.itEnglish
        51·
        12 hours ago

        Why the fuck would someone remember EVERY single order and associate it with a face? Also, usually people pay everthing in 1 bill when they hang out;

        This whole comment seems really out of touch lol

        • Jarix@lemmy.world
          English
          1·
          7 hours ago

          Excuse me? Whether it’s one bill or multiple bills the server has to remember who had what in order to bill them. Most POS system track different people by what seat they are, but that’s up to the person punching in the orders to identify.

          These women were competing to see which one of them would get a call, so they would have written their number in a way that identifies them so presumably they wrote their numbers on their orders. I think it’s really weird to assume it was all one bill though. When I hang out with people the bills are generally divided unless someone asks for a single bill, perhaps it’s different where you are but thats very much NOT my experience that is like a grocery bill with just line items and no separators. Again thats very much NOT how POS systems generally work.

          I know a lot of people who work in kitchens and so ive heard a lot of complaints about how dumb ass servers can’t remember who anyone at their table is and have to constantly reprint bills because they keep fucking up who has what. That’s a really common complaint when my friends are talking about the quality of the other people they work with. This is from again multiple people who have worked in restaurants for years both in front of house and back of house.

          If we are talking fine dining the servers are often expected to be VERY good at remembering details about the tables they are serving. The quality at Michelin star restaurants is often even more rediculous as to how much they can tell you about the table they just served, depending on style of business. I was briefly in a little nothing band and our drummer was a server at such a place. They were absolutely brutal with the servers and sent home multiple people each service for things as stupid as their shirt was not perfectly tucked in for more than 10 minutes before getting fixed. The way he described it there were 3 or 4 extra people just waiting for someone to be sent home every service. But I’m not expecting that level of attention to detail when I said decent server. I’m actually using a fairly low bar of basic competency, but not some fast food cashier

          I also have worked with a person for the last 8 years that does mystery shopper and sometimes has to judge exactly what a server does. Associating who ate what and who ordered what is entirely expected. It’s common for one person to order for another and it surprised me to learn that that’s not even something most decent servers are expected to have any problems with. Pretty routine and he doesn’t fail people too often for it, assuming he’s not bullshiting me, which I’ll admit is a possibility with him but I don’t think that’s whats happening

          I really don’t understand what your problem is with my comment, It wasn’t meant to be argumentative.

          Extrapolating I did make some biased assumptions sure but there weren’t a lot of details in the post so I kept it pretty loose. I presumed they were all flirting with the server so that would make it more memorable for them. The fact that every one of the guests wrote their phone number at that time also would increase memorability of that particular table.

          Good servers remember faces, how the fuck is that a surprise to you?

  • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    123·
    2 days ago

    Maybe he just wants to be friends with them all! Most straight guys don’t have enough genuine friends who are women.

    Or

    Better to hang out as a group first, get to know each other in a different context, and maybe safer too, once fucking decisions are made.

    Or

    Maybe he doesn’t know if they each know the others gave him their numbers and wants to eliminate the drama of them finding out separately.

  • cadekat@pawb.socialEnglish
    1971·
    2 days ago

    That’s either really wholesome or really smooth and I can’t decide which.

    • exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      71·
      2 days ago

      When I was single I loved hanging out with groups and basically deferring the decision of who actually try to get with, after I got to know them a bit better.

      If the group all want me to end up with the same woman, and they’re all wingmanning that one friend, maybe because she’s more shy, then it’d be great to hang out with them as a group and see if we’re compatible.

      If they all individually want to hook up with me, great, let’s see them all in a comfortable and fun setting to see who I get along with best.

      And even if it turns out I wouldn’t want to hook up with any of them, if they’re fun people it would be fun to hang out and see what else is going on. It’s actually a lot easier to talk to women when you’re already surrounded by women. And maybe you could introduce your own friend who would get along better with one or more of them.

        • exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          11·
          2 days ago

          I moved to new cities like 7 or 8 times in my teens and 20’s (before smartphones, and for the most part before social media at all). Each move was a crash course in getting plugged into a new social circle, so I learned to be pretty quick at making new friends and understanding the personality types and social dynamics that I liked to be around.

          At some point I learned to just say “yes” to new social situations, and see how they played out. It didn’t always work out for the best, but my openness to new people was generally a good thing to have in my life.

          • JustEnoughDucks@slrpnk.netEnglish
            4·
            2 days ago

            I think the problem for most people is not the “saying yes” part, but the breaking into any social circle at all to begin with.

            Groups are generally pretty tight knit and not accepting of outsiders in most environments and after early to mid 20’s, even if you are just trying to make friends, unless someone is the 1 in 100 very charismatic people that everyone instantly vibes with like one of my friends is.

            I made friends pretty easily before I turned 25 or so, now in order to make friends with other guys (I moved countries), I have to either be into watching sports, cars, or getting blackout drunk.

            • exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
              4·
              1 day ago

              I think the problem for most people is not the “saying yes” part, but the breaking into any social circle at all to begin with.

              That’s true. I broke into social circles through several avenues, in rough order of difficulty:

              • People I met through school or work. Very natural. Taking a bit of a leap from the basic introductory small talk of “what did you do this past weekend” to “what are you doing this next weekend” to talking about those activities and saying “that sounds fun, I’d like to do that sometime too” and then making arrangements outside of school/work.
              • People I met through casual pickup sports or gym classes or other group activities around social hobbies. Play a few basketball games at a local gym or court and get to know a few other regulars and their names, eventually see who you vibe with and do the same “what did you do last weekend” and jump to an activity you can do together.
              • Neighbors. There’s plenty of reason to talk to people when there’s a lot of overlap in space and geography. New neighbors are always looking for recommendations, so when you’re the new neighbor a simple note or a greeting can introduce yourself and kick things off, see if you’re gonna get along.
              • People I met through repeated familiarity. The same faces at the dog park, the same faces in line at your neighborhood coffee shop or bar, on your bus/train, etc., builds some kind of familiarity. There’s not always a reason to interact, but it can sometimes come up: commentary about the dogs playing with each other, excuse me do you mind if I plug in my laptop next to your seat, oh wow what did you order because that looks cool. It’s a low success rate but often a high number of natural opportunities for attempts.

              From there, meeting friends of friends can kick start new friendships, too.

              And look, I had great success making lots of friends, but had less success with dating through most of my 20’s. Things didn’t really start clicking for me in the dating scene until I was in my late 20’s and genuinely comfortable in my own personality, and whatever confidence I had in myself came through as a kind of authenticity that some women liked in a sexual/romantic partner, not just what people were looking for in friendships.