As a wedding caterer for 10+ years, I feel like OP owes ME money for having to read such a stupid request
I’m sure she will tip a good 25% on the $0 invoice
oh yeah that reminds me of that dude who wanted me to write a book for $25 or sth
I would like to reply with 8 fake profiles and assure that we will be there, then just not show up.
I wonder how much he’s “tipping” these 7(!) people he’s asked to work for free at his daughter’s party. I do like the boldness of the ask though, not like asking one-by-one “hey is there a DJ who might be ok working for tips?” but “is there an entire event company out there willing to do this for no cost?”
I used to be a videographer. Mostly weddings, and a few very small indie films. I eventually transitioned out of that and into a more stable career, but I’ve got 10+ years of experience.
A couple of years ago, knowing this, a buddy asked me if I’d be willing to film his friends’ live comedy sketch show. It’s a guy I’ve known since high school, so I figured I’d cut him a deal: I’d do it for $25/hr, 4-hour minimum. He responded, “What if I made you some lasagna instead?”
So that show went unfilmed.
I have a personal stance on doing professional work for friends.
If they offer to pay me for my services, they get discounts and maybe even a few freebies. If they ask for me to do it for free, they pay full price forever.
I’ll also proactively offer free work for friends sometimes when it looks like they could really use it, with the understanding they’re getting “much better than amateur, but nowhere near my best” when it comes to quality.
I did a bunch of free wedding photography and portraits and stuff for friends and family when I was in college. I stopped when I started getting referred to people who weren’t my friends who also expected free work out of me and then acted like I was the asshole when I refused.
My wife used to be a cosmologist, she did very well for herself but it was hard on her health doing it professionally for so long.
When we moved away, instead of building new clientele from scratch, which is hard. She took the opportunity to change careers into finance.
She still does hair on the side, for friends and family.
But we had to make a rule now that it’s family only, because honestly that’s like 15 heads, counting only the family geographically close enough to make it viable, and that keeps her busy enough as it is.
She does it for free, out of love, and obligation. Though most the family is pretty good about insisting they pay her the market rate, and being very thankful. She’s a great cosmologist.
She’d like to add in a couple friends here and there, again she likes to be helpful, but it quickly snowballs into more and more demands with less and less appreciation, even with close friends. And with less close friends, or just acquaintances, people start getting really offended when she legitimately has to turn them down.
They refuse to understand she’s busy enough as it is, and even if they’re paying top dollar(which they never do), she doesn’t want to do a side hustle that big. She just wants to do family, and some select friends.
So now we have a rule, family only. Period. Only her best, oldest friends, basically family, does she do their hair.
Everyone else, even if she wouldn’t mind doing some of them occasionally, get a blanket no. Family only. Because people can’t be chill.
That stops most people from being offended, and takes pressure off her having to explain the nuance.
She doesn’t have to explain why friend B can have hair done, but not them. Because friend B isn’t getting it either. Nobody is. Family only.
I didn’t know that cosmology was such a hairy field.
I was waiting for some kind of nebula reference…
Stupid autocorrect. I swear I triple checked those! I’m leaving it lol
I’d do it for $25/hr, 4-hour minimum.
That sounds cheap as fuck, isn’t that cheap as fuck? And he didn’t even go for that?
Yes, it is bonkers cheap. Like, unbelievably cheap. Even when I was first starting out, $300 for a shoot was my floor. But I’d been friends with this guy since forever and wanted to help him out.
Edit: autocorrects and typos
Must have thought you were Garfield the cat and will work for lasagna
Holy shit, a hundred bucks to film a whole ass show? Your lasagna friend is the most oblivious to have missed out on that deal
I’m in the business myself, and the way I handle this is simple. When it’s coming from people I know personally, I look at it like I’m going to do it for free, I weigh that decision that way and only say yes if I accept that. I let them know my rates are quite expensive, and that I’m not asking that from them because I’m doing it as a favour/for the art/for myself (depending on what we’re talking about, weddings, portraits, short films, something for their business etc). Then I let them decide if and how much they’d like to offer, and I’m happy with anything, because I’ve already accepted this was something I was gonna do “for free”.
Weddings in particular, I did a bunch when I was young and these days I’d never pursue more work in that niche, I only do it for family/friends and then the last thing I want is for money to sour things.
Obviously you can’t be doing that all the time, thankfully I don’t and have plenty of properly paid work as well. But you gotta make the difference between favours and clients and can’t look at it the same way, if my wife’s cousin asks if I can help her film some clips for her cupcake side-business I ain’t gonna treat it like a corporate client and ask the 1200€+ day-rate.
I like that. It’s kind of similar to the “don’t lend money you wouldn’t be comfortable giving as a gift, because if it doesn’t come back, you have to be ok with it”.
I’ve learned that lesson a few times. It’ll stick one of these days.
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It’s for a church honey. NEXT!
Omg what was this from?
NEXT!
omg that’s amazing…
Hilarious when they’re so serious!
Beautiful
Church lady asking for a ride for 20 people to some event. Everyone kept giving her suggestions and each one was met with a flippant, “That’s not enough for 20 NEXT!”.
Ty! This was too funny
/r/oldpeoplefacebook
Some old thread on Reddit, making fun of a Facebook post. I don’t remember which sub.
There’s lots of high school mixologists I’m sure.
Is pouring a bottle of everclear into a gallon of Hawaiian punch mixology?
Only if it’s into a plastic tub.
It certainly is! As long as you stick a long wooden spoon in there and mix them together.
I did pretty well.
“I can make a screwdriver… or anything with soda.”
I can do a pretty good virgin cuba libre!
I used to work in a bar (not as the bartender) and only ever heard someone order a Cuba libre once, every other time they just said rum and coke.
Cuba libre includes a lime wedge for that extra zazzle.
best i could do back then is take a cup to a soda fountain and go right down the line.
You know, all those high schooler mixologists. With their own portable bars. Totally reasonable you guys, c’mon help 'em out!
Classic !choosingbeggars@lemmy.world behavior.Do we have an insanepeoplefacebook community? This also belongs there if it exists on lemmy
Well that’s a dead community. Last update was 2 years ago
Lemmy has a dead community for everything!
Some say the APIpocalypse refugees were… optimistic.
Signed, moderator of !cad@lemmy.world and former mod of several OG kbin magazines.
I made a kbin magazine for the game Satisfactory and I think one person posted to it! 😁
STAHP!
you are making me nostalgic for a particular dead subreddit takeover.
There should be a community for dead communities.
Back in the day Reddit had something like that where you could request mod access if a community had been abandoned for long enough. I don’t know if Lemmy’s back end programming has functionality for that.
Ah yes, I remember that sub.
I’m sure a Lemmy admin could assign a mod if it was a com on their instance. But I doubt most of them want to be bothered with that.
This is sarcastic, right?
High schooler mixologist?
They know how to mix beer with more beer, and that’s about it.
I know you’re joking but technically (at least in my state) high schoolers aren’t allowed to serve beer. They’re BARELY allowed to move boxes of it from one place to another, and definitely not to serve it. I think they have to be at least 19 and get a ‘Limited bartender’ license, I don’t remember the exact requirements
I think they’re basically asking for a dirty soda bar and don’t know.
And hey, don’t undersell box wine and cola. You gotta adapt to what you can get.
Untrue!
Also rum with cola and vodka with juice! Though perhaps not in the US
Why do so many people want slaves
Slaves aren’t free! You have to buy them upfront and then provide food and housing.
This person wants magic.
True, they want volunteers or interns.
The magician is also free.
It’s very convenient
When you view other human beings as transactions, then slavery is no different than a coupon.
“You are magnanimously permitted to not keep the free work you did a secret.”
You and your friends sign up for this job. Day of, all of you either don’t show, show but then leave partway, or do such a terrible job that they send you home.
Show up, drink everything, chef makes a meal they feed to the drunks, dj starts playing american pie on repeat
Or “What’s New Pussycat” 21 times with a single “It’s Not Unusual” thrown into the mix
“I’m so clumsy!”
The moment they said mixologist, that post became a criminal offense.
Do it for free on the promise for a tip afterward.
Everyone knows there will be no tip.
it’ll be a few of those tracts that look like money.
Pinky promise!
